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Originally Posted by Erich&Kim
I bet that IS hot!!!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by CopNkitten
only happened on one holiday - Hedo about 3 years back in a hot tub in the middle of the afternoon after a good few rum punches - was such a cool experience - he was a guy we met on the bus from the airport, very good looking fitness instructor on his own - just climbed in with us & after about 10 minutes or so she was sitting on his lap taking a good 8" whilst I just sat there staring (we had shared a few spliffs too.....)
awesome probably the sexiest thing she has ever done
Nice! That's really hot. I'd love to see Kim sitting on 8 inches.
How bout 7 3/4 plus a ring?
lol
Cop..
7 3/4? Absolutely! She's been wanting a new ring.....maybe a ride on the cop express will do? A new cock with a ring:-)Quote:
Originally Posted by CopNkitten
Great thread and certainly a fantasy of mine but what keeps me from even remotely allowing this to happen is my fear that the other guy will offer something (size, angle, width, curve, motion, tongue skills, fucking technique, sexual intensity, lasting power, etcetera) that I don't have and/or the excitement of the whole thing will make her less interested in me and more interested in that guy or other guys or just a similar situation In an effort to replicate Whatever it is that she enjoyed better. I can see how this could make the sex life better, but I can also see it be the beginning of a bad end. All of a sudden you are the male friend who gets to take her to dinner, support her, buy her gifts, and take her on vacations while she plans her real sexual enjoyment around your suddenly not-so-fulfilling existence. Of course she would never tell you it was better with the other guy(s). She would lie (who wouldn't) and say it was just exciting knowing you were watching her and that is why she had more orgasms than ever, or squirted for the first time, or made noises you've never Heard before etc etc. She would say that you are the best she's ever had but can't wait until you take her back to hedo because she loves the atmosphere. And how would you ever know the truth?
Gee,I guess I could say the same thing about my wife's Vibrator!Quote:
Originally Posted by Trifecta
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Originally Posted by Trifecta
Trifecta, you worry about becoming a cuckold... and there is a whole subculture on that you can google..it happens for some guys who are inclined that way.
True but - it was absolutely awesome experience & we had the best sex after - in fact the best sex all holiday with no further a trois (the cool guy had moved on from Hedo)Quote:
Originally Posted by Trifecta
She's never done it again (well not that I know about!) but it remains a very sexual experience for both of us & certainly an easy subject for discussion to get her horny..
If your lady is truley in love with you, the bad result can never happen.Quote:
Originally Posted by Trifecta
Simply because sex with someone that you are not in love with can not be better than with the person you are in love with.
The guy can be bigger, go longer, have different techniques, but it wont be "better".
And if it is, they were not truley in love with you.
Can't make it any simpler than that.
Cop..
You biggest problem is that you cannot differentiate between making love and having sex. If your wife loves you, then getting together with others is just sex, nothing more, nothing less. When my wife and I get together with others we love to experience different things. We like to then tell each other what the other person did that they liked and that maybe we can incorporate it into our own LOVE MAKING!
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Originally Posted by Trifecta
NN, Thats pretty funny....I can see that LOLQuote:
Originally Posted by Naughty Nudists
Not interested in being a cuckold. And I personally would not let it be lopsided where she gets to have fun with another guy yet I have to just watch and get nothing in return. I would have to have a similar deal on my end. I was focused on my perspective in a swinging situation...but I didn't mean to imply that only the woman was getting the fun...it was simply her "Turn" so to speak.Quote:
Originally Posted by sunbabes
I can totally see that. Glad it was so great for you guys!!!!!! Thats awesome.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mary&John
Cop, you are probably very right...because if I think about it, no matter how hot, or how skilled a woman might be, if the situation was reversed (and she was watching and I was the one getting the extra-relationship sex), I would still want to be with my girl above and beyond anyone else. The other woman would just be a "sex toy" of sorts to me...and I guess that is the best way to think of the extra guy - a sexual "toy" or aid.....But they really can't replace the whole relationship. So I get your point.Quote:
Originally Posted by CopNkitten
HJ: So glad you guys have found something that is really great for you two. I can totally see how hot it could be. I can also see how it could improve certain relationships with the right personality types. That being said I really don't think I have a "problem" And its certainly not my "biggest" one. What I have is a few questions, and a comment or two.Quote:
Originally Posted by HedoJoe
Cheers. - Tri
For us it's still a fantasy. I wouldn't want her to hook up with a neighbor but someone who we'd only see or interact with once the in a while. The idea of someone large that me or doing something new and different is very thrilling for us. We both know it wouldn't destroy our marriage but add to it....sexually.
Yes to this!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Erich&Kim
Our very first time for full swap was on our 10 year wedding anniversary at Hedo. We had talked before the trip that year about being ready for that step and decided that if it happened it happened and if it didn't it didn't but it had to feel right was the main thing. The night and the moment was right and it just so happened to be our anniversary. Great memory and funny story, lol
Bingo!Quote:
Originally Posted by HedoJoe
Your marriage is what you make of it. If it's something you are both excited about and are able to share the experience between yourselves, why not embrace it? I think a lot of people let the pressure of the outside world dictate how they behave within their own marriage. If you are having consensual fun and are both happy, what business is it to anyone else?Quote:
Originally Posted by mac_r_a
That's what the man thinks, and would like in a male dominated society to happen. You got it, societ conditions women to be prewired for his purposes. It is actually the other way around. Think of it, a woman can have sex same as when she is 18, for legal reasons not before and at 100. Most men lose it by 45. My wife has tried to fuck 20 men at Hedo, where barely 10 could make it. They all gave great oral, which served the purpose, took oral, were hard and then could not keep it for the full course. All of them were in their 40's and 50's. All that I am saying is that it is social conditioning to keep women in control, they are more prewired to have multiple sex partners. I hope all women will give up those notions and open themselves up (pun intended) to have a fulsome sex life and give their husbands the pleasure to watch them enjoy sex with other men. I have learnt some men don't like another man watching and therefore lose the hardness - as a consideration to them, I am present to watch my wife, but stay invisible and join in only if invited.
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Originally Posted by kama sutra
Hello All
We are mostly lurkers in these boards, but having something to contribute to this topic...her first with another man was in St Martin while staying in a villa at Terres Basses. There are a couple of good options (good for the ladies) of masseurs who will go as far as you are willing to go. They are professionals, no risk of attachment. I paid for a two hour sensual massage for my wife and suffice it to say, she received her money's worth. We have video of the entire "massage" on the deck by the pool. He fucked her to countless orgasms. Our masseur is still there in business, very clean and protected, they have black ones and white ones. As a matter of fact, my wife is one of the pictures on his Facebook page (face down on the table).
To each his own but I can't see anyone who gives a massage and then fucks a woman as being professional.
It depends on what is in the package and how transparent the transaction is? If it was acquired with a fuck attached, then not getting it is unprofessional - whether paid or unpaid.
<------ 50 and has not "lost it", lol.Quote:
Originally Posted by sexylady
honestly I don't think it's age, but more a mental thing, kitten has encountered this many times, unfortunately.
Cop..
spot on
This is the biggest suprise I have read in this website: a guy being offered another's wife, and not keeping an erection? But I have heard this from our full swapping friends. Now, the wife and I have agreed that full penetration (safely, get to know the guy, etc) is now an exciting possibility for both of us. How do WE avoid this disappointing flop? For her playmate as well as myself?
Viagra...a wonderful recreational drug. However: encounters are usually very late at night, after copious amounts of alcohol. and even the best EDF drugs cannot overcome the "complications" of imbibing too much before hand.
Interesting to be judged on this website, but the term "professional" wasn't actually referring to his massage skill. In fact, many of the masseurs on St Martin are not really professionally trained massage therapists....they have other skills.Quote:
Originally Posted by HedoJoe
Money well spent.
What I was saying is that I guy can lose it for many reasons - for a guy even when the mind says yes, the body too must say yes. This could be for various reasons - distraction, sudden loss of appetite, too much drinking or drugs, using a condom or any other environmental factor. For a woman once the mind is ready, regardless of age, the body is ready. Imagine filling in gas. If there is no gas in the sump, the nozzle (man) will not dispense, but regardless of how full the tank (woman) is, it will receive, it may overflow (squirting, LoL) but it will receive. So I was agreeing that a woman in bed is much stronger than a man and lasts much longer in age (forever) than a man. No need to panic though, individuals differ and differ at different times.
As I said, to each his own. We just don't have any need to PAY others to have sex. We can find enough couples that want to do it for free.
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Originally Posted by sc_gators
It started with the vibrator and now to my liking she surprised me by playing with the John Holmes dildo. I was shocked and turned on to see her little 118 pound body take it like a champ. I think I would love to see her stretched and enjoying a real big cock like that. I know she would never see that person again unless we ran into them at a resort like this again.
For me (the husband) it is all about the wonderful feeling of giving...love at it's best...it's not about that other guy, but about my wife enjoying it while looking at me and saying "thank you"...
So once you've had a man other than your husband, does that give the desire to want to try another, and then another? After your first experience with another man, does that make your desire for your husband even stronger?
I found once I got into the lifestyle and had sex with other men it made me want and appreciate my husband even more as he can please me in a way no one else can. I don't think it really makes me want to be with others "more", it's just now we know it is a possibility so it is different - but in a good way ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by SXMCOLover
Mr. CoupleInMD here. We recently experienced our first full swap with a very nice couple we met through SLS. I was a little concerned about whether Mrs. CoupleInMD would want to go through with it. But when I saw her getting naked, then going down on the other guy, and soon bending over the side of the bed to get fucked, I felt good and proud of her for cutting loose and embracing the experience. And when I heard her moans of pleasure, it sent me through the roof! I definitely enjoyed watching her getting fucked by another guy, both as a physical turn-on and feeling proud and happy for her.
CoupleInMD
If the guy is better hung than the husband, do you think that it would create a desire for someone who has the same large long equipment going forward, or would it not matter?
The guy can be better hung, even have more skill, but can never be better or make a desire for others more than your husband, as long as you are really in love. Because when your in love, no one can be better, because no one can touch that place that your true love touches, hence the sex is always best with the one you love.Quote:
Originally Posted by SXMCOLover
Have there been cases of women wanting other men, leaving husbands, for sure, but not as high as most people think, and I would argue that they were never truly in love.
kitten likes certain types of men, and when she finds them, mmmmmmm, watch out. But once you realize that the guy can't be as good as you because she is in love with you, that's the point that the husband can relax, watch and enjoy it as well. Win/Win for everyone.
Cop..
P.S. kitten likes a nice size package on a guy, lol.
For us, it does not matter. Mrs. HJ actually doe not like overly large equipment.
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Originally Posted by SXMCOLover
If a woman based her entire relationship on the size of a guy's unit, then I would question the long term viability of the relationship. You can't put a number on the size that someone loves you. You know that when you've met the right person nothing else matters.Quote:
Originally Posted by SXMCOLover
What has size got to do with pleasure and fun? A fuck is multi dimensional and the dick is only one small part of the whole. In quest for variety all sizes have their own fit.
Thanks for all you advice and feedback. What you shared will relax hubby and we'll both enjoy the playing. Hopefully we'll meet the right couples for our fantasy. :sex: