Too Many Agressive Single Males?

We are in the process of planning our first trip to Hedo II for next summer, but we have come across negative posts of other web sites about single males. We kind of like the idea of possibly playing with a single male on our trip, but these posts make it seem like the resort is overrun with aggressive single males to the point that it interferes with people's comfort and is a negative impact on their experience. Complaints included unwanted groping, persistent hitting on of wife by a guy not getting the message that the couple was not interested, way to many leering guys, very aggressive approaches by guys as if it is assumed that the wife must want to immediately fuck the guy, etc.)

I know it must vary, but in your experience what percentage of the Hedo II guests are single males?

Honestly (I know most people on this forum are Hedo advocates), have you encountered similar problems at Hedo, and how often?

We are trying to decide between Hedo II and Desire. We have been leaning toward Hedo because we are voyeurs and exhibitionists at heart and it sounds like Hedo is more suited to public sex than Desire (while this may sound at odds with the concern of guys leering, we only want to be leered at when the mood is right, not all day long!) We also like the possibility of bringing a select single male in for fun, which seems not likely at couples-only Desire but we also don't want to be overrun by single males constantly hitting on the wife.

Thoughts please!

Dave & Cindy

I have only gone in February, but I would say that each year I have gone I have only seen about a handful of single guys there and have not witness ANY of them approaching anyone without permission first. I have never seen any aggressive or unwanted sexual behavior from any guest. I am not sure what others have experienced, but I have not ever been a part of or have witnessed anything you have explained above happen at Hedo. And honestly, if that behavior ever were to happen, the goup we go with would ensure that the aggressive or unwanted behavior would stop. That kind of behavior is unacceptable at Hedo. I wouldn't let one or two posts steer you away, that is not the norm.

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We go in April and there are usually a handful of single males. Same experience as above, have not seen any unwanted touching. But there is usually one goofball a year that just should have bought porn and a pro back home and saved himself the trip as he is an idiot that would not get laid anywhere, lol.

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Originally Posted by mac_r_a

We go in April and there are usually a handful of single males. Same experience as above, have not seen any unwanted touching. But there is usually one goofball a year that just should have bought porn and a pro back home and saved himself the trip as he is an idiot that would not get laid anywhere, lol.

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We had a police officer in our group last year that straightened out a little Italian fellow PDQ without even having to use force.I was not present when the offense happened but did see the guy wandering around later in the week.It was pretty obvious that he was "not right" as we say down home.

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Originally Posted by Dave_Houston_TX

We are in the process of planning our first trip to Hedo II for next summer, but we have come across negative posts of other web sites about single males. We kind of like the idea of possibly playing with a single male on our trip, but these posts make it seem like the resort is overrun with aggressive single males to the point that it interferes with people's comfort and is a negative impact on their experience. Complaints included unwanted groping, persistent hitting on of wife by a guy not getting the message that the couple was not interested, way to many leering guys, very aggressive approaches by guys as if it is assumed that the wife must want to immediately fuck the guy, etc.)

I know it must vary, but in your experience what percentage of the Hedo II guests are single males?

Honestly (I know most people on this forum are Hedo advocates), have you encountered similar problems at Hedo, and how often?

We are trying to decide between Hedo II and Desire. We have been leaning toward Hedo because we are voyeurs and exhibitionists at heart and it sounds like Hedo is more suited to public sex than Desire (while this may sound at odds with the concern of guys leering, we only want to be leered at when the mood is right, not all day long!) We also like the possibility of bringing a select single male in for fun, which seems not likely at couples-only Desire but we also don't want to be overrun by single males constantly hitting on the wife.

Thoughts please!

Dave & Cindy

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We`ve been there at different times of the year, and no definitely not overrun at all... Quite the opposite actually. There are usually only a few (very few), and though horny, I wouldn`t say aggressive. Almost all the single males we`ve met are cool, friendly, and know how to behave... They do well like that. You may have heard some of us regulars talk about the guys from Sandals who told their wives they were going golfing, and ended up getting drunk and stupid at Hedo, it was an isolated incident, and not at all a normal occurrence. All in all, a vast majority of people you`ll meet are friendly, respectful, and fun. :-)

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Originally Posted by Naughty Nudists

We had a police officer in our group last year that straightened out a little Italian fellow PDQ without even having to use force.I was not present when the offense happened but did see the guy wandering around later in the week.It was pretty obvious that he was "not right" as we say down home.

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I believe I heard that story told first hand from the person who did the enforcing ... I won`t elaborate, but things like that are very rare.

We have been going since 1994 and have never had problems with single guys.

Our first trip was last Feb. I only noticed a few single guys and it took a couple of days to realize they were probably single (see them repeatedly but never with a spouse). There was one strange guy we saw when we first arrived. The poor fellow (white guy) was sunburnt bad, his entire body was peeling and burning under the peel. He was always alone, ate alone, sat alone, etc. A friend we met said that the fellow would frequent the nude pool and walk up to guys (very close) and hit on the guys. My friend said he was "hit on" by the fellow. But for us, neigther my wife nor I were "hit on" by anyone, or if we were it was so subtle we didn't know it. We had many conversations with many people, made a few friendships and sometimes received good comments on costumes, sexy looks, etc., but even my prudish wife never felt threatened.

I would say that when we were there there were too many single males, but none aggressive. Flirty and complimentary, but too numerous for me. We play only with couples or single females, so my husband did tell a few that he doesn't share to get them away

We are not the veterans as many of the posters here, however, we have been going since 2012. In few times we have gone, maybe one or two semi-aggressive single guys. 99% of them are nice chaps. Easy to talk to, respectful, and mostly on their own or with other single guys.
We have had more issues with married guys than single. Normally, a nice quick "man to man" chat removes all communication issues or "misunderstandings".

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Originally Posted by Naughty Nudists

We had a police officer in our group last year that straightened out a little Italian fellow PDQ without even having to use force.I was not present when the offense happened but did see the guy wandering around later in the week.It was pretty obvious that he was "not right" as we say down home.

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Yes that was our good friend. The guy thought it was fine to just do as he pleased. We were in the hot tub with the innocent couple later as the same guy came around and got in. The husband scared the shit out of said Italian with a few choice words. Let's just say he had a time putting on dry clothes over a wet body. That was the most we've seen out of a single guy. No need to worry. We've never had a problem with single guys other than made good friends with them...Dick. :-)
Brian and Terri.

Exactly the opposite for our needs - not enough aggressive men, LOL. I don't mean aggressive - aggressive, but at least an approach frame. It is a waste when they sit and glare. Can't they just walk up have a chat, introduce themselves and take it from there, rather than sit a glare and glare and expect something to happen and obviously nothing happens. These people are the most discomforting rather than aggressive ones - of which we have seen none. All single guys when you read this and you think you should say hi and more - just do it. Some of them are waiting for you 2.

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Originally Posted by sexylady

Exactly the opposite for our needs - not enough aggressive men, LOL. I don't mean aggressive - aggressive, but at least an approach frame. It is a waste when they sit and glare. Can't they just walk up have a chat, introduce themselves and take it from there, rather than sit a glare and glare and expect something to happen and obviously nothing happens. These people are the most discomforting rather than aggressive ones - of which we have seen none. All single guys when you read this and you think you should say hi and more - just do it. Some of them are waiting for you 2.

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Yep, agreed... If they sit and glare all day, they make people uncomfortable, and people start to suggest things about them. Single guys will have a great time if they at least say hi and join in some of the pool chat. I'm just thinking of the last few trips... We really only saw a few, and never a problem.

As for a guy being hit on by a guy at the pool... Well, we all live a pretty open lifestyle so I'm certainly not offended if I'm approached, some guys are experimental, I just prefer buns over weiners... And they're fine with it if you nicely tell them you're straight. Besides, it must be very difficult for them considering it's still illegal in Jamaica to be homosexual.

While we are all Crackin' on single males,I would like to add that one of our favorite people that we look forward to seeing every year is a single gentleman from Florida.Always respectful and fun to be with and quite popular with all who know him.There are plenty of single guys on the resort that know how to behave.Once in a while a bad apple falls off the tree and gives all the others a bad name.That's the reality.

We haven't had any issues specifically with aggressive single men on our trips. From time to time we have run into aggressive people. We just simply walk away. There are assholes everywhere. Not going to let a few people kill my sexy fun!