Hello All--
As posted in another thread, I am thinking about going to one of the Hedonism resorts next year for my 40th birthday with my wife. This site has proved very helpful but I do have a few questions that will hopefully/observations help me decide which if either of the resorts is the right fit for us.
1. Neither one of us drink. We are not judgmental of those who do drink (to each his/her own) but am wondering if we would "not fit in" given that.
I would not sweat that at all. Except for people drinking beer, and my wife, I could not tell you what anyone is drinking at any given time. Like any other thing at hedo, when offered, a simple "no thanks" is sufficient.
2. We enjoy a healthy and active sex life but I doubt we would be into any type of soft or full swinging. Does that present any type of issue? We certainly would not mind watching others or being watched as the case may be.
We always tell people who consider going with us "it's your vacation- do as much, or as little, as you like"- I would say that the people who do vs don't is a 50/50 mix, at least when we go in August. As long as you do not point and laugh or be rude it is not a problem
3. Given our age and backgrounds (both college educated professionals) we are not really interested in hanging around immature people. I wouldn't say we are snobs but the "college partying" mentality is not us.
We see as many "mellow" days at the nude pool as big party days- it tends to get wilder the later in the day you are there. On the other hand we have found the quad area to be a nice compromise - nice and mellow during the day and a very social crowd without "going big" for the most part.
4. I have not pitched this trip yet to my wife but given it is my 40th birthday next year, this would be my golden opportunity. I think she would enjoy herself once she got there (and we would enjoy each other) but I am not sure how to pitch it to her exactly. She likes nice rooms on vacation (which concerns me a bit about the resorts) and that is one of her biggest travel pet peaves.
The rooms are definitely not 5 star, but any problems we have encountered have been fixed fairly quickly and to our satisfaction. I will not sugar coat it- if the room is really a big deal you may want to look elsewhere.
5. What type of massage services are offered at the resorts and are they included in the price or extra? We both love massages and this would be a good selling point with my wife.
Further details on this would be much appreciated.
Massage and spa services are extra and we found them to be on par service wise and what we pay here at home.
6. Not knowing much about these types of adult resorts, why do you think Hedonism is "better" than any other adult resort available? (To be honest, I know next to nothing about other such resorts other than reading about a "Desire" briefly on these boards). Are the Hedonism resorts truly the "best" adult resorts in your opinion? If so, what sets them apart in your mind?
Given the above, I am not sure which resort might work best for us. It seems the rooms are nicer at III from what I read but that the crowd at II might be more our style. In short, however, I do think both of us would enjoy the experience and make us grow even closer together as a couple.
My apologies in advance if some of these questions are stupid or have been asked before. There just seems to be a lot to digest. Fortunately I have a lot of time to read and learn! Thanks all.
No stupid questions- we have all been where you are knowledge wise prior to our virgin trips. People often say the hedo you go to first will be the one you like the best. That is true for us. We only have second hand knowledge about desire, but our understanding is that hedo is a party resort with some swinging going on and desire is a swingers resort where they party occasionally. We go for the party- and in all honesty we are probably in that "immature" group you mentioned before. After 51 weeks of- literally- life and death decisions and regularly unscheduled stress and tragedy, this is our decompression. We make no apologies for blowing off steam, and do attempt at every step to be respectful of other's vacations- I think that is something most people try to do. We go with about 100 of our best friends in AWOL and I like to think "respect" is a strength of our group.
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Originally Posted by trooper
) in expecting less than stellar accomodations, in exchange for the atmosphere, which we expect will more than make up for it. Time will tell.
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