swinger question

[hooked for life]

My wife and I have been to Hedo II and Hedo III, once each. Both times we went in March.

We both like to get involved and party, but are not swingers. We were thinking of going Jan 7 - 14 this year. I've heard January is Swingers month. Is this true at both resorts of just one of them?

Thanks.

[MaryW]

Hello Hooked!

It use to be that at H2 January was a designated "Lifestyles" month. Now H3 has attracted a large number of groups, most of which are lifestyle types, in January as well, though they don't advertise it as such.

I don't think this should stop you from going. First of all, as most people will tell you, you arent' going to be dragged off, or even harassed in any way. Most people who are in the lifestyle will simply ask if you are interested and if not, that will be the end of it. Most lifestylers live by the same rules as Hedo. No means no and don't touch without being invited or without asking first.

The other thing to remember is that "lifestyle" or "swingers" is not synonomous with "swapping". Many lifestylers simply enjoy being in a sexual-social setting, are comfortable with others displaying their sexuality around them or may enjoy being sexual (with their own partner) in public.

That pretty much describes the atmosphere at Hedo at any time you go there!

The main difference during lifestyle weeks will be a most likely larger crowd, a bit wilder and maybe more PDA's, and probably a lot more theme participation or at least a lot of slut wear.

[MaryW]

Also you may want to avoid times where there are celebrities or radio stations there as this may draw a lot of people NOT in the lifestyle or even knowledgable about Hedo and "the rules" and expectations. Many of which have the wrong idea about Hedo to begin with and think it's just a free for all with no rules. It can be a lot of fun during these times, but you may just run into more people who don't normally go to Hedo so just keep that in mind.

[Chris]

thats excellent advice

[hooked for life]

Thanks Mary, that was huge help.

I'm going to book my trip.