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    We have been together 30 years and my hubby knows I fantasize about two men at the same time based on some of our experiences in the early years. However I love him endlessly and would never hurt his feelings just for a cheap thrill on my part. Thats what I love about Hedo though, there are a number of single men who like to discuss the MFM fantasy; appreciate my sexuality and have obviously indulged themselves but they are very sweet and very respectful and because they know my hubby is not going for it the 3 of us just all end up being friends. The best sex for me is in my imagination anyway.
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    The Miss is willing

    I have the same fantasy.....seeing the Miss with another man for a full swap and maximum pleasure. We have been married for 28 years and have a very secure marriage. We are both very happy in our marriage and are very compatable. We are both satisfied in our sex life, I make sure the Miss is taken care of first in bed with 2 or more orgasms. My problem has always been ejaculating to quick once I penetrate her, and she gets robbed of a prolonged period of thrusting. Would like to have her hook up with a guy who can maintain a long period of time before ejaculating so she can enjoy a lot of pumping in a few different positions.....any takers

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    Quote Originally Posted by Miss B Haven 2 View Post
    I have the same fantasy.....seeing the Miss with another man for a full swap and maximum pleasure. We have been married for 28 years and have a very secure marriage. We are both very happy in our marriage and are very compatable. We are both satisfied in our sex life, I make sure the Miss is taken care of first in bed with 2 or more orgasms. My problem has always been ejaculating to quick once I penetrate her, and she gets robbed of a prolonged period of thrusting. Would like to have her hook up with a guy who can maintain a long period of time before ejaculating so she can enjoy a lot of pumping in a few different positions.....any takers
    There are fixes for this. I had this issue, and went on low-dose Zoloft specifically for the "certain sexual side effects". It definitely makes a difference, as now instead of 60 second boy I'm quite capable of several minutes of foreplay and several subsequent minutes of penetration on the first go... and the second go can range from many minutes to a rare "damn, I can't come again" (leaving her *very* fully satisfied).

    Talk to your doctor. There are risks (long term side effects can include anorgasmia, etc in rare cases), and it's generally thought that going on and off and back on the meds can induce them. (Coming back off anti-depressants can have the reverse effect, giving you P.E. if you never had it). But for me, it's been a real boon, and the side effect on curbing my mood swings has been an added benefit -- I probably needed it even without the sexual prolonging effect.

    Does it slightly diminish the orgasmic experience? Yeah, it does. Masturbation can now be a real workout, and you have to be mentally tuned to your sexual response to get there. (It's easier with a partner). I think that in that, I'm experiencing now what most women live with day in and day out, whereas before it was easy to "rub one out" on demand. It also makes getting a second erection more difficult (the refractory period is longer), but for that, the doctor gave me Levitra for occasional use, which works quite nicely in half-doses.

    Is that slight diminshment worth it? You bet, and I say so every time I hear my wife make noises now that were formerly quite less common during intercourse. Your mileage may vary. Talk to your doctor. As I said in a different thread, it's a VERY easy conversation to have. You might think it embarassing, but they've heard it all. Just talk clinically, as if you were discussing a hangnail -- it's no different. It's a medical issue to which you seek a solution, and that is why your doctor is there. He's not going to laugh at you, or judge you. He's a professional, and he knows damn good and well what percentage of men that come in under 2 minutes. He's possibly one of them himself, and he's certainly treated your neighbor for it.

    What have you got to lose?

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    Everyone's fantasy's are a little different. I like seeing my wife with other men but am usually with thier other half at the time. But I enjoy watching her, n ot sure why either but it is taboo in a way and exciting. W
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    Whether sharing your primary lover works for you depends largely, I think, on your self-esteem. If you have a strong relationship and a strong sense of self, knowing your woman is making love with another man will not seem as threatening as it would be if your sense of worth is totally dependent on the relationship. I have shared my women with other men and we've all enjoyed the experience.

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    are married for 34 yrs, and have watched many times, I feel great about my wife and know that it only confirms that she is beautiful & wanted when other men look or play. must not think that either of you are the others property, and you wil be ok-just enjoy the time with other people people

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    Smile Swap or just fun

    My Husband has the fantasy of me with another man and watching me get fucked. I dunno why, But I really want to do this on a Hedo trip. Any single guys or couples willing to swap partners, drop us a line and maybe we can chat and get to know each other. Talk sooon!

    Chandi!

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    Quote Originally Posted by chandi09 View Post
    My Husband has the fantasy of me with another man and watching me get fucked. I dunno why, But I really want to do this on a Hedo trip. Any single guys or couples willing to swap partners, drop us a line and maybe we can chat and get to know each other. Talk sooon!

    Chandi!
    When are you going to be there?

    We'll be there Jan 15 to 22

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jester55 View Post
    There are fixes for this. I had this issue, and went on low-dose Zoloft specifically for the "certain sexual side effects". It definitely makes a difference, as now instead of 60 second boy I'm quite capable of several minutes of foreplay and several subsequent minutes of penetration on the first go... and the second go can range from many minutes to a rare "damn, I can't come again" (leaving her *very* fully satisfied).

    Talk to your doctor. There are risks (long term side effects can include anorgasmia, etc in rare cases), and it's generally thought that going on and off and back on the meds can induce them. (Coming back off anti-depressants can have the reverse effect, giving you P.E. if you never had it). But for me, it's been a real boon, and the side effect on curbing my mood swings has been an added benefit -- I probably needed it even without the sexual prolonging effect.

    Does it slightly diminish the orgasmic experience? Yeah, it does. Masturbation can now be a real workout, and you have to be mentally tuned to your sexual response to get there. (It's easier with a partner). I think that in that, I'm experiencing now what most women live with day in and day out, whereas before it was easy to "rub one out" on demand. It also makes getting a second erection more difficult (the refractory period is longer), but for that, the doctor gave me Levitra for occasional use, which works quite nicely in half-doses.

    Is that slight diminshment worth it? You bet, and I say so every time I hear my wife make noises now that were formerly quite less common during intercourse. Your mileage may vary. Talk to your doctor. As I said in a different thread, it's a VERY easy conversation to have. You might think it embarassing, but they've heard it all. Just talk clinically, as if you were discussing a hangnail -- it's no different. It's a medical issue to which you seek a solution, and that is why your doctor is there. He's not going to laugh at you, or judge you. He's a professional, and he knows damn good and well what percentage of men that come in under 2 minutes. He's possibly one of them himself, and he's certainly treated your neighbor for it.

    What have you got to lose?

    Jester
    why the prescription meds? why not take a couple of horny goat weed pills and swing for the fences. used to work for me. i wanted to go from 15 minutes to 30. now its almost a joke between us. she has like 5 or 6 orgasims and im still waiting for mine. good luck either way
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    How does this get started?

    My wife is very sexy, stacked but not flirty. My dream or fantasies is to have other guys play with her tits and her suck another cock. How does this get started, how do you get guys or couples to approach and want to play with her tits and maybe more?

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    Quote Originally Posted by chandi09 View Post
    My Husband has the fantasy of me with another man and watching me get fucked. I dunno why, But I really want to do this on a Hedo trip. Any single guys or couples willing to swap partners, drop us a line and maybe we can chat and get to know each other. Talk sooon!

    Chandi!
    Hello to you 2, when are you Guys going to be @ Hedo?
    Jo- & Mark

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    We have had several such encounters. I like watching and participating in my GF's complete satiatin. It is an incredible turn on for me as well as her(obviously). Afterwords it makes me appreciate, feel lucky and thankful to have her even more than before.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigC View Post
    I am curios about the men who have a fantacy of seeing there wife or GF with another man! is it something you really want or is it a door opener to include other women? My husband has talked about this for 2 years and I am struggling with WHY!!! We have been married for 30 years I was 16 he was 18 and we have a great marraige and great sex!! I just need a honest answer from the men!!

    I, like quite a few other men, have this fantasy and it is definitely not a ruse to get someone else's woman. In fact, if it eventually happens it will be with a single man, not a couple, because I want to be able to watch every second of it. We've been together for 25 years and its a huge turn on to think of my sweet wife behaving very badly.

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    Bad Wife

    We're going back to Hedo II the end of May to the 4th of June. Will there be any hope of getting someone to play with my wifes DD tits. What a turn on it would be. We just don't know how to get it started. I drink rum cream from her nipples and pussy right on the side of the pool but no one has joined in yet. Hopefully this year!!

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    I agree with the posters who state that sometimes a fantasy is just a fantasy. Be careful acting on this one if you both aren't sure this is something you want to do. Having regrets afterwards could be bad news. My husband has never made the slightest hint about wanting to watch me with another man but he's made many hints about me being with another woman.

    I don't know that the fantasy of watching a wife or gf with another man is common but obviously some couples are into that. Just be sure you are both in agreement and won't have regrets afterwards.

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