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    We found this short, informal survey on another group's site. Thought youd find it interesting:

    Fellas: Do you get turned by watching your women get fuck by another man?
    Total votes: 48

    Yes / 20 votes
    41 %
    No / 13 votes
    27 %
    Only if i am fucking the wife of the other man / 15 votes
    31 %

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    Go for it. But make sure you are both on with it and what could happen afterwards. That's what's it's about. Trust and sexuality. If they are both not there, then don't. Move on to what's right for you!
    If it is , well then go

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    If the husband wants to engage in a 3 some so that the wife will be fulfilled and pleasured in every way... It seems the question then becomes, does the wife feel that a 3 some would increase her fulfillment and pleasure? Sorry about the circular logic, but the premis is that the 3 some would purely be for the wife's pleasure... yes? But then, if the husband fantasizes about it, maybe it would be for his pleasure... DANG, I just now made myself confused... Don't pay attention to this post; It makes no sense.

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    We have experienced every combination and have enjoyed them all. Our preference is FMF and we have had a few regular girlfriends but it really depends on what comes up. We don’t plan anything. We just go with the flow. We only have four rules. We both have to agree, we both have to be present, we both have the right to say no at anytime and no drama afterward. We have both experienced jealousy especially during our first experiences. Even if it is a fantasy, there is a huge difference between fantasy and the actual experience. Don’t be surprised if you feel some jealousy. Deal with it and It will pass. Don’t give your partner shit over it. You both discussed it and agree to it and if you choose to you never have to do it again. We both enjoy the lifestyle and have a good deal of experience, but when we went to Hedo we did not play with others. It was our honeymoon, after our wedding my wife was out of the country for about a month due to an illness and death in the family. We both have custody of our children and rarely have time alone. We decided that we both wanted to just be together and did not want to share with others, but it the right situation came up we would have been open to it. Our next trip will be the total opposite.

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    I too have the same fantasy, when I said something to my wife about it she gave me a dirty look and did not answer me. I have never done anything like this before. I guess I was hoping that she would come back with a fantasy of her own, but nothing.

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    Human sexuality is so complicated. Is this a submissive fantasy (cuckold), a dom fantasy (directs the action), bisexual, voyueristic, etc... One thing is to ask if you're going to "owe him one".

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    SOmetimes a fantasy is just that. Something that is interesting to think about without ever makeing the thought a reality. I have had the same fantasy, mainly because there are things I think my wife is very good at that when she's doing them to me I don't really have a great view. Sometimes I've thought about just sitting back and watching her preform so I can see her go to work. This may be one of the reasons that your husband has presented this idea. I think you should ask him why he thinks about it. If nothing else this has created a situtaion where the two of you can continue to commincate about this and other topics.
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    As they say - "It's not for everyone, but it's for someone' - If we never voiced our thoughts, or fantasies, we'd never do anything new. I know for us, Hedo started out as a fantasy of mine - but now it's our favorite place on earth!

    I'm not saying you should just go for it, but think about it, then talk about it, then think about it some more - you never know.

    I've learned to never rule anything out - well, almost anything.

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    If you have been together for so long I doubt that you would get any answer closer to the truth on here, than if you just talk to each other. Surely after all this time you can be open and honest with each other and talk about the things you want, like and fantasize about ?
    That said, I do know that communication is not always as open and honest in a relationship as one, or even both, parties may actually believe.
    I'd say - set the living room with candles, get naked with a bottle of nice wine and play - "admit your fantasy" - and just talk without being judgemental.
    Good luck

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    How to discover HIS fantasies

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    FUN for Both

    My wife is the most up front sexual woman I have ever known. When I suggested we try swinging she said she'd think about it. We discussed our fantasies. She was reserved at first but soon discovered that she had many like mine. The trigger that convinced her was my explaining to her I viewed swinging as recreational and our relationship as love. Having sex is recreation, making love is personal.

    When we watched pornos I noticed how excited she got watching the mfm's. After a lot of talk we concluded that she thought the penis was a beautiful thing. She told me she loved the look, feel and taste of them. After taking care of a little distraction we decided to give it a try. We decided to try an mfm and see if it was as good in reality as it was in fantasy. It was better. To see the pleasure she got was exciting. She was totally spent by the end, but we stayed up all night making love.

    We have repeated the scene many times. She has now decided she wants to watch me with another woman. I'm happy to oblige. At the end of the night we make love, during the encounter it is up close live porn.

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    My experience

    I was in the same exact position..my hubby talked about me being with another man..with or without him..as he was my only experience (since we've been together since I was 17) we are married 20 years, I thought how is it possible that he could want it and wasn't I enough, well through some playing together and without him (just to show him! lol) we have both come to realize that it IS fun...it doesn't diminish our love for each other, but I have to agree that it is SOOO important to talk together...talk talk talk and talk some more...you can always try and if you don't like it you don't do it again...if you do..keep doing it...we like the vacation play, and I have even found that if it's the right moment, I can watch him get pleasure and give to another woman, which I was convinced I would hate...so you never know...it's good to remember to respect each other and keep talking...after all this is the person you have to go home with...and want to go home with...
    plus somehow in jamaica, it's all IRIE!! Min

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    Sounds familiar

    BigC,
    I have had the same dream/fantasy and think it's common among us males.
    I have discussed with my wife of 28 yrs., how I would like to see other guys (or girls) play with and suck on her big tits, have her sucking another cock and have a MFM with me in her pussy and another guys cock in her mouth.
    She doesn't give me any strange looks, just asks why. Because it would be erotic, sexy and exciting. Maybe some guy will come up to her and ask to play with her tits or a blow job. I can only hope.

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    I think "Littlenervous" is exactly right. Why he wants this all depends on his motivation. You can ask the question here but never get a real answer. Sorry girl, use your heart and figure out his motives. If it is something you BOTH would like then go right ahead. If you are not sure, TALK about it. Good luck

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    Well the answers here are always going to be as varied as each person...so alot of info out there. Would have to agree that the fantasy for some is enough...others well its a start. On our trip to Hedo we got to try the GOG experience...actually was more of a beginners party to the female encounter. Wasn't looking for the experience but got drawn into the party and being a newbie...we was a great time. We do hope to do it again with some variations but will see what comes our way. Have to say was more his idea than mine but as always what makes him happy untimately pleases me as well. The real fun part now is reliving the experience or me talking about it to him when we are having sex at home...vbg really adds to the fun at home!

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