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    I have been with my wife for 16 years and in the lifestyle for 7 yrs and counting.As for me in turns my crank watching my wife with another man call me weird but it does
    At the end of the day its all about getting the sheets wet and having fun

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    I have been trying for years to get my wife to do this, at first she said I was crazy so I looked it up. It is the second most popular fantasy among married men so I have plenty of company. She is apposed to it on moral grounds (adultery)and marital vows so it may very well only be a fantasy. She has progressed in the last few years so I am hoping for something at Hedo II next trip, Why you ask, I think it would be hot, I know she would like it, and I think it would do wonders for our already god sex life. I may even enjoy it more than her and can not explain my desire for her to do this. My hat is off to the gals who have tried it and guys I am envious,

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    Stevebusa, please don't force your wife to do anything she's not in total agreement with. We've seen too many cases where the wife has been forced into it by the husband, and it never ends well. She has to progress at her own speed and have total comfort with it. It was a long journey for us, many conversations over many years but I don't regret that it took so long, wouldn't have wanted it any other way.

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    From Steve's post here and on another part of ATF, he doesn't seem a happily married guy. He needs to address that as he comes off as the not atypical married guy looking to be legitimized for having sex with someone else under the guise of fun for "their" relationship. He wants her to accept it but it's clearly not remotely her thing.
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    Its hot to watch really is. Don't know why. I guess its the same thing as watching yourself in a mirror or videotaping. But for me Im going to play too either with another girl or her. The hotwife thing or just watching isn't my thing.

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    I get it I really do
    I have the fantasy of Kim with a big black guy but I know she isn't really into it so I am not going to push it. We have fun hinting around at swinging etc and we have a great time with it going to parties and all but we have been and likely will remain monogamous. It can end there, I love her more than anything and I will respect her feelings on it

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cdn_cpl View Post
    Stevebusa, please don't force your wife to do anything she's not in total agreement with. .
    ^ this ^
    x 1,000

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    we play MFM's and i love watching her pleasure and be pleasured by other men and joining in...jealousy can be an issue for some couples so you have to be sure before you jump in...have rules and stick to them the best you can... remember love and sex are 2 separate things ...communicate before during and afterwards ...i'd suggest that her new lover not spend the night but meet for drinks flirt touch and if the chemistry is right play but make it known before hand by all parties what the rules are and how long you want the experience to last for the evening....our experience has been after he leaves our sex is extremely intense and truly exciting....also i love to watch her get ready...the days leading up to the event are usually sexually supercharged between her and I as are the days following it...

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    The basic motivation of life is "pursuing pleasure, avoiding pain." We try different food (pleasing the oral cavity), go to different places (pleasing our ego), like to see different things (pleasing our eyes), listen to different kinds of music (pleasing the ears), touch and be touched (pleasing the skin), so what is sacrosanct about the genitals that we keep them to a single experience? It had something to do with the domination of man and to know that the outcome he is feeding is his. With the progress of science this fear has disappeared, and after menopause also this fear disappears. So ladies, don't fear. If your man is fantasizing about it, take a commitment from him that if he gets jealous or envious, he has to take responsibility for it, otherwise you both are not ready for it. Travel a different road, and go boldly where you both have never been before. If both want it let not the outside world hold you back. This is sexylady's man filling in.
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    I enjoy watching my wife with another man or even another couple. Her satisfaction is my ultimate goal!

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    My wife and I have been married 23 years. About 9 years ago after the kids we much older we decided we needed to spice up our sex life. We were both fit and attractive so we decided to go to nude beaches and adult resorts and some swingers clubs> My wife has and exhibition streak and loves being the center of attention. We did not really see our selves swinging per say. We made out with a few women and even had a MFF along the way. I did notice if we watched porn my wife liked MFM like any wife would. As we shared fantasies she confessed she had been keeping one from me for fear of being judged. She was turned on by the idea of other men. So was not really my fantasy to start but when she brought it up I was immediately turned on by the idea of watching her with another guy. I decided I was okay with it. it would be like watching the best porn movie ever and I get to join in. We watched porn with MFM or wife watching only. Problem with porn is all the cuckold stuff. Not into that. What I did not know until 6 years ago was what turned her on the most was hung, fit black guys. We finally made made it happen for her at HEDO II 6 years ago and she loved it. Now she is a chocolate monster and so she gets to indulge often. Nothing hotter than watching my super hot wife being pleasured and then having her unleash on me.

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    NO not at all I'm not allowed to my wife with another man and I also not engage my self with another woman except for my wife it's my opinion personally whatever the other men think I don't care.

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    It's spicing up sex life but still remain as a fantasy since we still couldn't the right place,time and most of it is the right mood.

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