Not going alone...

[CocksRocks]

Okay Family I need some advice...
I just completed my first Hedo3 trip (in the middle of typing the report) and I went solo. Now someone is deciding that they want to actually go..

The group of people I went with are awesome and they are planning a trip in October. Now I already checked the website and resort is showing sold out, although there is availability with the group I have concerns.

1. I met many people from the group and its a swinger group, so I dont think that will rock with...someone

2. I know how much fun it is to go with a group and I want to make sure that he sees the resort as a fun party place and not a drab place. I know at Hedo3 when I stayed later the party atmosphere had died.

3. Did I mention he has no idea that I went without him?

I am trying to optimize his enjoyment at the resort. Am I trying too hard? I know many husbands, wives, boy/girlfriends have come to the site with the same concerns.

Also budget is a bit of a concern, I would ideally want to go during a time lower than $150 and I think it is cool if we explored H2 together as a first time adventure for the both of us.

Any advice?

[CopNkitten]

There are many groups, check out several and prices thru them. And I would not worry many people in the group are swingers. We have swingers in our group and non swingers and we never pressure anyone or make them feel left out.
If he wants to go, then book the trip quick, while its still in his mind, lol.
Paul + kitten....

[Rob&Jo]

For several years we have gone to H2 the week before Thanksgiving. There are many swingers in the group that goes, although it is not as structured as some groups.The rates are always good. I'd have to check, but I think there are rooms for less than 150 pp this year. It is a fun group, open to new people, no presure, very fun. There are other groups as well, so it is always lively. Let us know if you want a line on a room.We can connect you with the right people. Enjoy.

[tamnrudy]

Is "SOMEONE" aware that there are swingers who go to the Hedos...with or without a group? I mean...would going to anyplace that he may encounter folks in the lifestyle be an issue? And...You can plan for the end of November at H2 and we won't say a word...LOL.

Although...it is a concern that you don't feel you can be honest about the trip to H3. At least that is the way it sounds. Sorry if I am wrong in that assumption.

Tam

[CocksRocks]

Yes he is aware that there are swingers at the resort. And I clearly told him nothing happens unless you make it happen.

When initially brought up the trip I said this is a clothing option resort.

Him: Oh.. a nude resort? Why would you want to go to a nude resort? Do you want to look at other naked people?
My response: The atmosphere of the resort is to be able to be comfortable with yourselves in what ever capacity that is. At the resort if you want to have sex on the beach while drinking a sex on the beach you can. Its an all inclusive resort where you can party at night, win rum throughout the day and relax. You nor I dont not have to take off clothes unless we are on the NUDE side.
Him: Silence....No I dont want to go. Do you want to go?
My response: Yes I want to go thats why I brought it up.
Him: Wow I cant believe that you want to go. I feel different about you. I feel like I dont know you anymore. (after 10 years)
My response: Fine. We wont go.

Do not apologize for your assumption. Your concern is as valid as your opinion. I wanted to share my fantasies with someone I trust and I was honest in expressing that. And rather than try to be open with me he closed the doors and got the opinions of others before making a decision. When the opinions of others had nothing to do with our intimate matters.

I went and had a great time and did nothing against the rules of our relationship. Just the fact that I have the ability and resources to be independent without him that would cause the issue.

[CodePoet]

Wow I cant believe that you want to...

damn... nothing nice has EVER come after that line.

so packed with judgemental goodness...

(been there dozens of times myself)

[tamnrudy]

First...Code Poet...unless it is followed by...WOW...SO HAVE I!

Next, CocksRocks...HUGS HUNNY! I can so understand. Perhaps HE just needs time to let the idea roll around in his noggin? I know that for me...it takes time to consider an idea...I have to think about decisions for a while if possible. In fact, I have a really hard time dealing with changes in things like schedule of events etc. It just plain FREAKS me out.

Anyway....Hugs again. And do you think it would help to "walk" with HIM through some of the posts and trip reports here or at DennyP? Maybe then HE will get the idea it is NOT about "looking at" other naked people, but hanging out with and laughing til your sides hurt...naked or otherwise.

We tell Hedo stories ALL THE TIME...about the funny things that happen. As long as we don't say we were nekkid, nobody has any better of an idea. it is actually kind of funny because I wonder how much their opinions of our tales would change if we said...and oh, by the way....we were ALL NEKKID!

Respect.

Tam

[BYQSASHA]

Being a women, Hedo to me is liberation, being comfortable and upfront w/ur sexuality. I've always been a freak, watched porn, loved and enjoyed sex, and very comforatble w/my sexuality back home w boyfriends or sexal partners...But when i found HEDO, Yeah Baby..LOL Most of the men i talk to about Hedo or share stories w/ can not understand or think w/an open mind and begin to b very judgemental. Alot of the men i've came across seem to be selfish lovers and don't want to share, share meaning don't want to share a peak of ass, breast, sounds..and can't understand why people want to be nude around others. Outsiders always get the wrong idea about Hedo, or what goings on. I always say people won't get it until they get there and experience Hedo Resorts.

Well until then, Good Luck 2 u n me, LOL.