I was prompted to create this thread by some of our newbies and I think it's a great idea.
To enlighten the newbies (as much as possible) about the exciting possibilities and situations that Hedo can offer, let's discuss pre-trip discussions that need to had with your mates about what may come up and how to handle it.
I will start with a few examples (very basic I might add) and everyone jump in with questions, comments and additions of their own.
This thread will be a great way to ask "what if" and "what about" and "how to" and so forth.
Let's start with this:
BEFORE getting to Hedo, I don't suggest a huge set of rules like some do. I think it's better to have a small list of "not-to-do's"... Because you can never really know what is going to come up. I like to suggest the "take it as it comes" technique, with pre-trip limits set, so that anything "up to" a certain point is OK with you and your mate.
Example #1: You may be wanting to play around with another couple, but neither you, or your mate is OK with either of you having full intercourse with another person. Your agreed limits for each other may be that kissing, oral and hands are OK, but inercourse is off limits. "A" and I are not swingers, but I believe this is refered to as a "soft swap."
Example #2: You may also have a requirement that any "action" must take place when you and your mate are together. Sounds simple, but this means that you don't so much as grab a boob, or an ass cheek (lol)... unless your mate is with you.
The fact is, you can't talk everything out before you go, because you don't know what's going to come up, but you can certainly have concrete rules about absolute limits that keep you both from ever having to say "I had no idea that was a no no."
Nothing at all may come up, or you may be faced with decisions 2-4 times a day. It all depends on the crowd.
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