2022 1st time visitors not in the LS

**TheSharps** · 04-24-2022, 08:35 AM

Hi
we would like to hear some input from 1st time couples not in the LS tell us about your stay, did it cause relationship issues, did help your relationship?
hope these questions are ok to ask we are trying to keep an open mind and learn from other experiences so we can enjoy the stay.
Thank You
HS

**mrcaj** · 04-25-2022, 03:50 PM

Our first several trips (8 done and more coming) we met people but never played with anyone, never asked to play with anyone, and was never asked by anyone to play, etc. You can really focus on each other and still feel like you are part of the regular crowd. It's ok if you just want to be with each other.

**Baz&Sus** · 04-25-2022, 06:23 PM

We were not in the LS when we went to Hedo the first time either although we were leaning that way. Now, guilty as charged.

**mrcaj** · 04-26-2022, 02:24 PM

I once saw Hedo guests described in thirds. One third not or never will be LS types, one third who are hard core LS and looking for partners, and the final third are not active LS types but 'just might' take the plunge while there.

**BigBlueNation** · 04-26-2022, 03:31 PM

My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for 20+years. From our experience we have yet to find pushy people trying to convert others to the lifestyle. LS people understand that just causes drama and problems for others and not what we are in it for. That being said during our last trip to Hedo, even though we are in the LS, we just spent the week enjoying each other. We didn't even hook up with anyone until the last night there. I think that is the beauty of Hedo. You can go there and have whatever kind of week you desire. If your idea of a successful trip is spending quality time together in a beautiful, romantic setting, Hedo is the right place. No one will be pressuring to do things you're not comfortable with. You can dance, dine, enjoy the entertainment, find the secluded hammock for a nap or find excitement in getting caught being frisky. Just make it the vacation you want. However, if you are thinking about, curious, maybe, should we, considering exploring the LS I would like to offer this advise. The LS probably won't save a troubled relationship as much as it is to condemn it. Before you go have a open conversation about hopes, desires, boundaries, expectation, ground rules and a plan on what to do if one becomes uncomfortable. Drunk, late at night at the nude side hot tub is not where or when you want to make those decisions.

**CapnMorgan** · 04-26-2022, 04:09 PM

Originally Posted by BigBlueNation

My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for 20+years. From our experience we have yet to find pushy people trying to convert others to the lifestyle. LS people understand that just causes drama and problems for others and not what we are in it for. That being said during our last trip to Hedo, even though we are in the LS, we just spent the week enjoying each other. We didn't even hook up with anyone until the last night there. I think that is the beauty of Hedo. You can go there and have whatever kind of week you desire. If your idea of a successful trip is spending quality time together in a beautiful, romantic setting, Hedo is the right place. No one will be pressuring to do things you're not comfortable with. You can dance, dine, enjoy the entertainment, find the secluded hammock for a nap or find excitement in getting caught being frisky. Just make it the vacation you want. However, if you are thinking about, curious, maybe, should we, considering exploring the LS I would like to offer this advise. The LS probably won't save a troubled relationship as much as it is to condemn it. Before you go have a open conversation about hopes, desires, boundaries, expectation, ground rules and a plan on what to do if one becomes uncomfortable. Drunk, late at night at the nude side hot tub is not where or when you want to make those decisions.

Very well stated!

**TheSharps** · 04-27-2022, 06:30 AM

Thank You

**TheSharps** · 04-27-2022, 06:42 AM

Thank You, we have been together 17 years and actually picked hedo after watching a you tube video of the top ten middle age plus adults only resorts to visit and hedo was #1 so we booked it and then did our research and now after the research and asking questions we are still a bit nervous but at the same time excited for the experience we have no expectations of what will or won't happen and have talked boundaries and are getting more excited for our visit with our questions being answered by all the people that have visited. Thank you for your reply.

**ABCfirsttimers** · 04-30-2022, 07:45 PM

Appreciate this thread! We booked in much the same way. Great recommendations and a reputation that people can be themselves surrounded by fun adults being themselves. Looking forward to it!

**SamAndRose** · 05-02-2022, 08:38 PM

Originally Posted by TheSharps

Hi
we would like to hear some input from 1st time couples not in the LS tell us about your stay, did it cause relationship issues, did help your relationship?
hope these questions are ok to ask we are trying to keep an open mind and learn from other experiences so we can enjoy the stay.
Thank You
HS

Our first two (and only so far) trips we considered ourselves 'not in the lifestyle.' But what we learned about each other in the first trip made us intrigued enough to go back for a 2nd trip for our anniversary. We explored our relationship and did not play with other on the first trip, but we did play beside another couple on the beach one evening, and found our comfort levels. We returned to explore some more, and to see where we were at with each other, and with others. Lots of talking and communication led us to return, and we hope to get back there in '23 to check out all of the resort upgrades since we were there last.

S&R