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    new to Hedo, 1st timers, questions n concerns, please help :)

    Hi all, New to Hedo, not to Lifestyle(LS). We are a West Coast soft swap couple in the LS for a few years. We have been back and forth about booking a Hedo trip, but just recently booked for May and now we are sooooo worried about our decision. A bit about ourselves. 50 fish couple, him early 50s, soon to be 50. We enjoy the LS but would be considered tame within the LS, although our vanilla friends would think we are crazy, lol. We have been to clubs, hotel takeovers, Vegas conventions, house parties, LS cruises and nude beaches. So, we have a pretty good idea about what goes on and all those good things. Not newbies in any LS sense. But, for us there is a difference between lifestyle and nudity. We enjoyed our nude beach times on the few that we went to, but for us they were liberation and fun, but in no way was it involved in any LS type event or place. And within the LS we enjoy meeting people and having private fun, but for the parties and places we went to, we enjoy sexy clothes, or lingerie as opposed to full on nudity in a setting which has a good majority of LS folks. Thats a Main reason why we hadn't booked up until now. How can we get past this to enjoy ourselves in a full on nude and LS type environment? any help? suggestions?
    Also, and we know this has been address at times on the board, we have body issues, lol. She is in great shape but had an illness a few years ago (all good now, thank god), but her 105 lb body of a few years ago is more like 120-125lbs now. (he still thinks she looks awesome, btw)....but she is self conscious about that and she is sporting almost 50 year old natural boobs, while she doesn't normally have an issue with her boobs, their seems many ladies her age who frequent Hedo who are, medically enhanced. She is concerned about this....any tips or help for her would be great. And lets not forget him, he is in good shape, not the same as years ago, but overall good shape, but, his issue of course is the dreaded "grower not a shower" issue. We know its been addressed here before and within the LS when we have played he is considered average down there, so its not a problem then ,but when in normal walking around, hanging by the pool, etc, lets just say he feels he will definitely stand out and not in a good way. We know personality is more important and we have nice smiles and are considered attractive, but these body issues have us to a point where we are fretting our trip and worry that we will be on prude side and in room all day waiting for dinner and the parties at night to have fun. Any help, tips or advice would be a lot of help. thanks in advance , mr n mrs newtohedo11

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    You two will be fine. Hedo has a way of improving your body image, at least that's my opinion. You will soon realize no one is perfect. Don't hesitate get naked and you will soon realize all those fears you had will wash away.

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    Yes - Hedo has a magical way of equalizing everyone - whether by looks or social status. I know it may be hard to believe, but your attitude is the most important and attractive attribute. We are a pair of 50 year old lovebirds that just got back from our 3rd trip there, and have never felt better about ourselves. You'll be absolutely fine. ��
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    Habfan68 nailed it. You can as much or as little as you want at Hedo and no one will care. Go and enjoy yourselves. Just do your homework on the week you plan to go. Our group has a few open rooms in June and it sounds like you would fit right in.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Habfan68 View Post
    Yes - Hedo has a magical way of equalizing everyone - whether by looks or social status. I know it may be hard to believe, but your attitude is the most important and attractive attribute. We are a pair of 50 year old lovebirds that just got back from our 3rd trip there, and have never felt better about ourselves. You'll be absolutely fine. ��
    we agree 100% with those two love birds!

    people dont' care what you use to look like last year or in your 20's... this place is all about live and let live... go have fun and don't over think it...
    attraction is in the head not a body weight!
    we find anyone attractive who shows self confidence!

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    Just go and enjoy yourself. Be respectful and you will be fine!
    Last edited by clary1; 03-02-2019 at 10:34 AM.

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    I agree with all above. And men don’t have to worry about “standing out “. It’s ok at H2. R

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    Our first time will be in September and your situation with the LS but not “group” nudity is very similar to ours. And so are your concerns. We hope you do a report once you go and tell us all how it went. Hope you have a great time.

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    Thanks for the comments. We hope all will go well, really looking forward to our trip. We will def post a report once we go and come back . Also, tried to make this post a few times, and it never posted, now it seems to have posted several times. Not sure if theres a moderator. But sorry about that folks

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