My favorite thing about Hedo is that everyone can be who/what they are and they will be accepted. It is seriously the least judgmental place on Earth that I've ever experienced. It's why my husband and I keep coming back.
The first year we went (2006), we were in our mid-30s, had only been married a few years, and had been together a decade. True, our "stats" were not as impressive as yours (congrats on 30!). We decided it was time to move out of our comfort zone, too, and we weren't sure if we would swing or not, but we had talked about it, and we were both open to to seeing what would happen. We laid ground rules. If either of us was uncomfortable for any reason, that would be the end of anything.
Turns out, we were both pretty comfortable with what happened! It was an amazing experience, and discussing everything ahead of time (what we wanted, what we didn't want, what the ground rules were) made for the perfect time. For example, when in the hot tub, a (seriously hot) woman invited my husband back to her room because what she was interested in was full swap (switching partners for the night in separate rooms), he already knew I was not open for that (nor was he in the reverse) and declined. Before I went to Hedo, I would have never have known how I would have felt in that situation, and I would have expected to be jealous. What I found was that because we had laid ground rules and trusted each other to follow them, it was just a hot conversation in a hot tub. He introduced the idea of a threesome to her (which he knew I'd be into), she wasn't interested. So, while I was flitting about the hot tub being sociable, this was all going on, and when I returned, they laid it out, and I complimented her on her good taste in men, expressed my disappointment it wouldn't be a threesome, and then we all had a great time together for the remainder of the trip with no expectations and no judgment.
That's my long-winded way of saying that I agree with the other responses and that you never know what you're going to feel until you're in the situation (it turns out I got hot instead of jealous, lol!), make sure you have ground rules/expectations laid out, and Hedo is the best place to explore these things because everyone is so nonjudgmental and welcoming. You'll know if it's right.
Good luck and have fun!
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