First timers who went as non LS but had things change at Hedo

**Daisyjamaican** · 08-17-2016, 11:42 AM

We are going in April our first trip to Hedo.

We are not in the LS but have no issues with anyone that is. That being said I'm wondering how many couples went on their first trip like us but had things change.

Would be interested in your stories

Sassy* · 08-17-2016, 12:40 PM

What do mean had things change? Things concerning your relationship? Your sex life? Lifestyle activity?

**Daisyjamaican** · 08-17-2016, 12:52 PM

That you played with other couples when it was something you left for your trip thinking you would never do

Sassy* · 08-17-2016, 04:50 PM

Ah, that. We did not play on our first trip. We didn't even really ever discussed it before the trip because I guess because neither of us really thought about it. However, after that trip we did start having a ton of conversations about it and about 6 months later we were "Lifestylers". That first trip definitely was the catalyst. I have heard many others share stories like yours (and ours). It's been several years now and so glad we made that first trip!

**stevebusa** · 08-17-2016, 04:50 PM

I think that is one of the attractions of Hedo. Always stretching the boundaries, be it being nude for the first time, or a gang bang, and anywhere in between. The atmosphere is sexually charged, add alcohol and nude bodies to the mix and anything could happen. Out of the country where no one know you, and likely folk you will never see in real life and the stage is set. Disney land for adults, naw nothing like that ever happens.

**NatAndRob** · 08-17-2016, 08:45 PM

I have to think that it happens all the time, given the environment. It's really easy to get caught up in the heat of the moment - probably not the best way to be initiated, but I'm sure it happens that way a lot. I think that Hedo is on the radar for most people with even a modicum of interest in swinging, so I'm sure there are just as many that go on their first trip hoping that something might happen.

We had our first playtime experience on our first trip to Hedo - we talked a little bit about the idea ahead of our trip, but were still pretty apprehensive. As we talked, we thought we'd probably be comfortable playing around with each other in public, but the idea of playing with others wasn't really on the menu at that point. Once we got to the resort, our eyes were opened. We got way more comfortable. We grabbed a few drinks, got naked, and make friends with some people in the LS - we gravitated to them because they looked like they were having the best time. Our preconceived notions of what "swingers" were and how the LS works pretty quickly evolved. The final barriers were broken down when we were approached by a nice couple late one night in the hot tub, and suddenly we were part of the club.

-R

**we2are469** · 08-18-2016, 12:26 AM

Originally Posted by Daisyjamaican

We are going in April our first trip to Hedo.

We are not in the LS but have no issues with anyone that is. That being said I'm wondering how many couples went on their first trip like us but had things change.

Would be interested in your stories

Nope, didn't move us to the LS on our first trip, or any trip after that. If your leaning that way, good for you, but please discuss this between your selves very thoroughly. We've seen much drama, almost every trip there, with couples being out of sync. In one case I was close to calling security because of the verbal sparing in the room next door. Remember you both need to be on the same page about this.
That being said, people in the LS are the best people to party with, really great personalities.
And, we will be there next April 2017, when are you guys arriving.

R

**JayNSteph** · 08-18-2016, 05:51 AM

We had not had an LS experiences before Hedo; however, we were curious and talked AT LENGTH about it. We talked scenarios with each other so we knew what we would be comfortable with "if" anything happened. We did some soft play while there on our first trip, were very comfortable with it and talked about it after it happened and were very comfortable with it. The key is communication so that anger, jealousy and fighting doesn't happen. I know some couples who come year after year and are not in the LS and have not been drawn in by it either. Enjoy whatever makes you comfortable, that is what Hedo is about, enjoying you.

**ShyinOntario** · 08-18-2016, 06:36 AM

Originally Posted by we2are469

Nope, didn't move us to the LS on our first trip, or any trip after that. If your leaning that way, good for you, but please discuss this between your selves very thoroughly. We've seen much drama, almost every trip there, with couples being out of sync. In one case I was close to calling security because of the verbal sparing in the room next door. Remember you both need to be on the same page about this.
That being said, people in the LS are the best people to party with, really great personalities.
And, we will be there next April 2017, when are you guys arriving.

R

This happened to us as well. Screaming from the room next door late in the night... we could make out that the girl had gone further than the guy thought was acceptable (both were very drunk), then the sound of a suit case rolling out as she left without him.

Alcohol, poor communication and sex with other people don't mix.

**foxxyandhound** · 08-18-2016, 03:20 PM

we only started going to hedo in 2012... been in the lifestyle since 1994ish.... but we know some couples that has went to hedo and not in the LS but after that trip they were good to go.....

**Daisyjamaican** · 08-18-2016, 04:10 PM

Should be a great trip even though I don't have any interest in the LS. Even though i think my husband thinks I might. Lol. I know that I don't and I'm ok admitting that I would be jealous Ina heart beat so we will steer clear of it. I think in some ways my husband is afraid to go but he definitely shouldn't be.

**ky-hedo** · 08-19-2016, 06:55 AM

If you e talked and said no!!! Then STICK TO IT! Having a fun is not worth ruining a relationship!
With that being said, on our 1st trip we talked about and said no, we kept to it. Got home afterwards and discussed it again, our 2nd trip we were open to it but made no plans and expected nothin! And something did happen, we had a blast, go with the flow and have fun!
Communication, trust, communication, communication!! See the common theme? Lol.. Be honest and talk! Don't let anything happen in the heat of the moment, that's when it will end badly! Enjoy your 1st trip, you'll make friends for a lifetime there!

**lacdeloo** · 08-19-2016, 07:00 AM

Originally Posted by Daisyjamaican

Should be a great trip even though I don't have any interest in the LS. Even though i think my husband thinks I might. Lol. I know that I don't and I'm ok admitting that I would be jealous Ina heart beat so we will steer clear of it. I think in some ways my husband is afraid to go but he definitely shouldn't be.

This is much like my wife also,just go and do things together at your own pace. You can have as much fun together in this sex filled adult Disneyland,and watch the goings on will only enhance your trip. Always remember to communicate with each other and stay on the same page.........dont think too much about it just enjoy yourselves.

**cardinalfan** · 08-19-2016, 03:07 PM

For us, it was actually the third trip where something happened. But the first two trips were for one and two days, respectively. Prior to the third trip, I thought there was a decent possibility that the wife may lightly play with another girl (waist up). I didn't even bring up anything because I thought it might freak her out too much and make her not want to go. I was totally OK if something happened, but not really looking to make it happen. 2 days before we left, after we had put on a show with just us, a female friend came up and asked if she could kiss each of us- wife went for that. After that baby step, she said that she always thought she would be jealous, but she really wasn't. The next day we jumped in full bore, had a group playroom excursion with a different couple +1 and the rest is history. Point being, just go with the flow. If you think you would have jealousy issues I would get close to the edge but purposefully hold back the first time until you have a chance to talk together, even if you have previously discussed it and decided to try something if the mood strikes. Regardless, the place has a sexy vibe that while playing with others can certainly make it more fun- you will have plenty of fun just the two of you!

Good luck!