Testing the waters

[Lt.Dan]

Hello all. First off I want to apologize as this post will be very similar to previous post but this is in an effort to custom tailor this in order for my wife to read the results and feel a little more personal.
We have agree to take a more "risque" trip this summer. June 2016. I am leaning toward Hedo's prude side with the hopes that she would be willing to venture over to the nude side. I would not pressure her into this but have explained what I have read that most people end op going for it. She's not believing it.
She is no prude by any stretch ( has flashed friends/truckers on several occasions and just a fun girl to be around ) but just doesn't believe that she would be comfortable going topless let alone nude.
She is an incredibly hot 45 y/o who like most women thinks she is fat and unattractive. She is worried about her mid-life mid-section.
Is there enough topless bathers on the prude side pool area to help set the mood? I'm thinking baby steps.
She will be reading this so any words of encouragement will be appreciated.
Thanks.

[sunandsea]

You are in the right place as there is lots of info here. It doesn't matter what anyone looks like. This is one of the most nonjudgmental places you will ever find. She will see topless, totally nude, and full bathing suits on people of all shapes and sizes at the prude pool, and on the prude beach. Just tell her to do whatever she's comfortable with, and be happy that you can spend time in paradise together. Enjoy the sun, entertainment, food, people, and the vibe of theme nights if not anything else. If she's a goddess in your eyes, that's all that really matters.

[WhoDoHedoWeDo]

You are in the right place as there is lots of info here. It doesn't matter what anyone looks like. This is one of the most nonjudgmental places you will ever find. She will see topless, totally nude, and full bathing suits on people of all shapes and sizes at the prude pool, and on the prude beach. Just tell her to do whatever she's comfortable with, and be happy that you can spend time in paradise together. Enjoy the sun, entertainment, food, people, and the vibe of theme nights if not anything else. If she's a goddess in your eyes, that's all that really matters.

I would suggest that you both go straight to the nude side and strip down. In 30 minutes if you feel uncomfortable get dressed and move to the prude side. My guess is that you will not leave the nude side. It is the most freeing experience!! You guys will leave Hedo more in love than ever. None of us have perfect bodies and thats ok. We are all perfect at Hedo!!

[M & R]

The previous two posts contain great advice. Try the naked thing right away. What have you got to lose? If you're not comfortable in a few minutes you'll know and can adapt accordingly. Most likely, however, you'll experience an awakening and never look back. The Hedo vibe as I've experienced it so far is about letting go of your insecurities and seeing that we are all there for the same reason... to be free and equal. Can I get a HELL YA?!

[ITGuy]

Wife and I did our first trip for anything like this last August. Have never done a topless or nude resort. We decided to dive right in, walked up the beach to where it says nude only beyond this point, stripped down and never looked back. You think you'll feel odd but as we walked down the beach everyone just smiled, said hi, and couldn't have been any friendlier. We were so happy to do it. Have her read through some of the trip reports which can help to, but like everyone has said you will see all body types there and no one cares, everyone is there to have fun. My wife and I are over weight and never felt judged or out of place, we just enjoyed the sexy time. I think we probably had more sex that week that we had all year up to that point...lol, being away from the 2 little kids probably helped with that too.

[STL-MO-CPL]

I had to chuckle when I read your post. If you read our trip report from our virgin trip back in 2011, you'll see why. I have the link included in my signature line down below. We too decided to throw caution to the wind and try out a sexy resort and see what it was like. We both did tons of research and knew what to expect for the most part and weren't too intimidated. We would just go check into our prude side room and then hit the prude side beach. That was the plan anyway. Well, the airlines had other ideas in store for us. They lost our luggage, so we had literally nothing but the clothes on our backs and a small carryon bag with her purse, my wallet, our keys and a camera. We were sick of our dirty clothes and didn't have anything to change into. It was our destiny! She threw off her clothes a little easier than I did, but we both ventured over to the nude side and never looked back. Three days later when our luggage finally arrived, we were already well into the routine of daily life walking from the prude side to the nude side each morning and only going back to get ready for a meal. The rest is history. I can promise you this, shedding your clothes is a liberating experience. When you're with other people from all walks of life, it frees you in a way you can't understand until you try it. Body image is a big deal to everyone. I understand your concerns, but it all melts away under the Jamaican sun. Everyone is on the same playing field at the nude side. You'll never look back!

[The Travel Slut]

Hi there....all the previous posts are spot on.

Everyone at Hedo has had their "1st time" and any angst or pre-trip anxiety is almost always eliminated after a few hours at Hedo realizing that everyone there, from staff to guests, are just regular people in an environment where everyone is seeking to enjoy their days and nights, hassle-free, and with open minds.

Pre-trip concerns disappear when people realize that everyone is equal, especially without clothes, and the passing of judgement of guests is a rare occurrence.

[Lt.Dan]

Thanks to all for the insight.

[Lt.Dan]

We are looking at going June 12 thru 17. We are very nervous but we have got some great encouragement on this sight. I see that a group " Cougars and Cubs" will be there. Do you have any info on that? If we are not part of the group will we be outsiders? Any advantages of joining a group?