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    We are new to this and stumbled upon it while trying to decide what resort to go to in Jamaica. We are not swingers but we love to flirt and be naked. Hedo seems a little over our heads but we would still like to have some naughty adventures.

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    Out of curiosity what part of Hedo do you think is over your heads?
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    We are not interested in swinging and I don't think my wife is ready to be at a place where it gets quite that wild. She is fine with being nude and some flirting that type of thing but the open sex and wild parties would probably intimidate her.

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    My wife and I are not swingers either, and we had a great time at Hedo. You do as little or as much as you want. The place is sexually charged we had more sex that week than i think any other month of our lives, it was amazing. Im sure you would see plenty of sex in the open but its not something you would be pressured into or anything. As i said we had an absolute blast there, its also the only place ive been to in Jamaica so i cant really recommend anywhere else...lol
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    We are swingers and have met many other couples at hedo who were not. If you go...scratch that...WHEN you go, just be upfront with those who you meet about you being a swinger or not. Most of us swingers have no issues laughing, joking and having a great time with others that are not in the lifestyle. If you meet others that do not want to talk to you because you are not a swinger, that is a plus...those people are tools lucky for you, you will not have to waste your time with them...lol

    As for over your head.....Hedo is what you make it, we have friend that spend most of their day on the prude beach because they like to relax in the Jamaican sun, we prefer the nude pool and the party, others like the nude beach. It is your vacation and you get to pick how wild or laid back your trip is.

    The only thing to worry about is your pocket book....once you go, you start dreaming about going back....this winter will be trip 13 for us.

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    We aren't swingers and love going. For the most part the open sex would be at the nude pool and hot tub. I'm not going to say it doesn't happen much but it's usually not on your face. That is a tiny part of the resort so you could avoid it at night when must of the open sex happens. If you are wanting to be a little naughty Hedo is the perfect place. Everyone will let you enjoy whatever you find naughty and not judge or bother you.
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    Love the idea but she will not budge on Hedo says no way regardless of all thats said. In her mind it's just a swingers resort. I was hoping to hear there is a naughty but slightly more mild resort in Jamaica. Sounds like this is primarily a Hedo crowd though. Maybe someday...............

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    I dont think there is anything like that in Jamaica. Someone correct me if im wrong but that sounds more like Desire or Temptation right?
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    If you want a nude beach go to Couples.

    Get her to check the trip advisor reports, many from first timers.

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    Get her to go on a day pass. That way is she is uncomfortable you can leave. I think that once she is there she will never want to go anywhere else. My husband and I went on a day pass in August and we never made it to the prude side so now we must go back so we can say we have seen the whole place. Next time we are spending the night!! We can't wait. BTW we are not in the lifestyle. We never felt out of place. As a mater of fact that is the first time I felt like we belonged somewhere completly. I believe that my husband and I feel even more in love that day...If that is even possible. We have been married for 20 years.

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    Quote Originally Posted by toohorny View Post
    We are swingers and have met many other couples at hedo who were not. If you go...scratch that...WHEN you go, just be upfront with those who you meet about you being a swinger or not. Most of us swingers have no issues laughing, joking and having a great time with others that are not in the lifestyle. If you meet others that do not want to talk to you because you are not a swinger, that is a plus...those people are tools lucky for you, you will not have to waste your time with them...lol

    As for over your head.....Hedo is what you make it, we have friend that spend most of their day on the prude beach because they like to relax in the Jamaican sun, we prefer the nude pool and the party, others like the nude beach. It is your vacation and you get to pick how wild or laid back your trip is.

    The only thing to worry about is your pocket book....once you go, you start dreaming about going back....this winter will be trip 13 for us.
    Perfectly said! Midlifecpl, actually your first post does describe Hedo. Flirt and be naked if you so desire. Make it your vacation and discuss your boundaries. There's no pressure to do anything you are not comfortable with.

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    Some weeks are wilder than other weeks. If you could convince your wife to go on a day pass, maybe skip Janaury as it is official swingers month. I've been twice both times different weeks in February. I did see oral sex and a bit of intercourse at the nude pool mainly. Some people leave their bedroom doors open on the nude side. But out of all the people there, the open sex was only happening with a few people. Most people are just socializing. The other thing is, sometimes people imagine porn when they hear "open sex." Being around it is nothing like viewing close ups with a camera. You basically only know it's happening because of the way people are positioned when they are doing it. I've met swingers who never hook up in public while there so it's not like all the swingers are just openly getting it on all the time. The majority of the sex happens behind closed doors. The sexually charged atmosphere is amazing though. I wasn't sure if I would be comfortable with the sex in public before I went the first time and I can say, it doesn't bother me at all. I found it pretty easy to look away any time I wasn't interested in watching.

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    Hedo is what you make of it.
    You can have a wild swingers kind of vacation (which I see you are not into), and/or you can have a very romantic vacation.
    And everything in between.
    It is rare that things are "in your face" over the top. But you will see some things, people having fun, etc.
    But it wont be enough to put you off.
    It is not what you think, and everything you want.
    If you go, you wont regret it. Many people there are not in the lifestyle.
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    Quote Originally Posted by midlifecpl View Post
    Love the idea but she will not budge on Hedo says no way regardless of all thats said. In her mind it's just a swingers resort. I was hoping to hear there is a naughty but slightly more mild resort in Jamaica. Sounds like this is primarily a Hedo crowd though. Maybe someday...............
    We went as virgin non-swingers last year and had the best vacation ever. People weren't constantly begging us for sex, etc. In fact we met people of all stages in the LS and enjoyed talking with all of them. They are all very open in LS discussion and allowed us to ask open questions with honest answerss.
    We will be traveling there once again this coming Feb as non-swingers and anticipate having a great time.. Now we are open to PDA so if this bothers your better half you will have issues. If you are both open and honest it will be the best vacation you ever had and I gaurantee you will be closer together when you leave than when you arrived.
    We have also been to Temptaions and had a good time but our new preference is Hedo.

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    We've been to Hedonism twice now and are looking forward to our first trip to Desire next year. I wish your wife could talk to my wife. I think a woman to woman talk could help put her mind at ease and allay whatever anxiety she has about going there. If you knew how conservative our backgrounds are, you'd never in a million years imagine that we'd be enthusiastic visitors to a place like Hedo or Desire. Our occupations could not possibly be more square. We have kids, go to church, bla bla bla. Typical suburban parents. We just happen to love the sexy, fun atmosphere at resorts like this.

    On our first trip, we booked a room on the prude side and wondered if we'd get up the courage to go nude to the other side of the resort. Well, we didn't have to worry because American Airlines helped us make up our minds. They lost our luggage and didn't get it to the resort for 3 days. You can only wear the clothes on your back for so long before you start to feel a little gross, so off we were to the nude side. It's a funny story looking back on it, but we weren't very happy when it happened. At the end of the day, it was the best week of our marriage in my opinion and we booked a return trip 2 years later and celebrated our 15th anniversary with a vow renewal on the beach at sunset. It was amazing.
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