If you cant say anything nice,dont say anything at all..........unless it is constructive and nice.
If you cant say anything nice,dont say anything at all..........unless it is constructive and nice.
We do not attend Hedo for an outlet to play with anyone. We play at home also, and as far as the 3-some is goes ..yes a couple will split if they play alone. Has happened several times with us, female half joined. Not at Hedo however! We go to Hedo with an open mind, if we play..we play if not. We will most certainly play when we arrive back home. Now while at the sexually charge atmosphere resort we understand people go just for that. Beware that if you are too aggressive it could scare folks away. Again..some folks Dont go with their primary order is to play. If this makes sense.
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We take it as it comes. When we go to Hedo our primary order is to have fun. Let loose..what happens happens. We let the couple tell us how things will go down. If they play alone or not...etc. If we get a good read thinking he is ok with it then we will certainly be ready. We would never try to split a couple up to satisfy our wants. It has happened where the woman just flat out says to her husband. "If they just want me I'm going for it". The thing you need to remember here is the women are in control of this party. ....We as men just think we are. Only thing we are in control of is making our women happy. If you aren't then someone will right?
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Samson don't let the negative replies get to you. Your question was honest and fair. Just follow the advice you were given about how to approach it and if you do so without being insulting most people will just as politely say "no thank you" if they aren't into that. Obviously it isn't a common scenario but obviously it DOES happen.
I think your best tips were to get to know the guy as well as the woman in the couple ...then if/when it seems appropriate to bring it up state what your preferences are and see the reaction you get before you ask.
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Thank you for the constructive feedback. We agree with all the constructive posts that have been on here. I hope we have fun at hedo where ever it goes. And we wish you all the same.
The wife and i have been following this thread and were curious if most couples in the lifestyle try to avoid newbies? We will be there for Hedoween and want to experience what the lifestyle is all about (been talking about it for years), however because we are swinger virgins we are a bit nervous about how to start the whole thing and even how to initiate once we've met a couple who are interested. Do most swingers have patients with noobs or would they generally prefer a pass for more seasoned couples?
how to start to chat with ppl... just say hi and its started...lol... for us just ask are you in the lifestyle and we will tell you yes... but on here you get to know ppl that are going the same time and you learn what each other are into.... that makes it easier.
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Right...just say hello and don't be afraid to ask if someone is in the lifestyle.
I think most won't be so hesitant about newbies but they may ask you more questions about what your limits are to be certain you are certain! Definitely talk that out well before you get started so that you can clarify for anyone else you may party with.
And it they DON'T ask...let them know your limits.
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Many of the people we have spoken to in the lifestyle would not consider this as they are mainly interested in doing things together. One of the biggest concerns is for the safety and well being of the other spouse and being close by is one way to ensure problems of that nature do not happen, or of they do can be dealt with quickly. Several have indicated interest in only same room activities for this very reason. Of course this is not a hard and fast rule but from the people we have spoken to does appear to be reasonably common.
Danny boy, we have no problem with newbies and I think most experienced swingers feel the same from what I've observed. It's way more important to us that you have it together as a couple and that we click, your level of experience isn't an issue.
That has been our biggest question/concern! Since we are so new, how do you get a conversation started with a couple you think may be interested? Is it super awkward if they turn you down? Do some just avoid newbies?
Everyone was a newbie when they started. I think just saying, "Hi," is a super good way to start a conversation. If they aren't interested, you'll figure it out, just like vanilla hook-ups (or dates, if you prefer).
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