Originally Posted by
cinnamonflixxx
It's sad that people are conditioned to equate jealousy with love and a lack of jealousy as a lack of love. Trust is key ingredient in lasting love. The level of trust that the love is solid and won't be compromised by any other person or activity needs to be in place before a couple can even think about involving others in play. It can take years for that level of trust to develop.
Personally, I wouldn't even date someone who had a problem with me looking at others. I find excessive jealousy really unappealing and a bit controlling.* It's unrealistic and so limiting in a world full of beauty to only have eyes for your partner for the rest of your lives. But everyone is different and I suppose there are people out there who really do only have eyes for their partners. Of course if my love ONLY had eyes for others THAT would be a BIG problem.
*I don't mean to suggest that is your situation. Your situation actually sounds fairly typical. I'm just making a general statement about my way of being.
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