The cold shoulder treatment

**PMPNLP3018** · 05-10-2015, 07:59 PM

Wanted to take a moment to poll the regulars that visit this resort. Last January we decided to vacation at Couples Negril and have always wondered about staying at Hedo. Rather than going all in on a trip we decided to get a day pass l, go over and check things out. We breezed over in the morning, handed over our id's to the desk and not given any information about the resort, food, activities other than we needed to be off the grounds by 9pm. We wandered around a bit and found the nude beach grabbing the last two free chairs that happened to be on the fat boarder of the property next to the food stand. We spent 5 hours there, tried several dozen times to strike up conversations on the beach, in the pool and on the grounds with no much luck. Once it was discovered that we were not part of the two or three groups on the property we were shunned. I can honesty say as soon as the topic of what group we were with came up and we informed they'll we were day passers and this was our first time the conversation immediately stopped and conveniently they either had something to do or honestly just turned around mid sentence and walked away. After the brief time, less than 5 hours we packed up and left very disappointed and kinda miffed. As first timers to a erotica type resort it was very sad to get a cold should because we weren't part of any group and certainly a turnoff to participate in the lifestyle since we are also totally new and never participated. And comments to shed light on the situation via forum or pm is greatly appreciated

**Outlaw11b** · 05-10-2015, 08:08 PM

Sorry that happened to you guys. When we were there we met a couple on a day pass and they we treated no different than anyone else other then not allowed at group events. We found most people at Hedo very friendly if you liked the resort I would give it another try you won't regret it.

**clary1** · 05-10-2015, 08:08 PM

There are groups of people that have been regulars for years. They all know each other and may be standoffish. However I know that there are lots of people who are new or on day passes that are shy about breaking the ice. I have found that a little bit of small talk or an offer to get a drink from the bar goes a long way. I hope you go back. If we are there I would be honoured to meet you and I'm sure that a lot of the repeaters would feel that way too. Maybe it was just an off day!

**happy2us** · 05-10-2015, 08:29 PM

Originally Posted by PMPNLP3018

Wanted to take a moment to poll the regulars that visit this resort. Last January we decided to vacation at Couples Negril and have always wondered about staying at Hedo. Rather than going all in on a trip we decided to get a day pass l, go over and check things out. We breezed over in the morning, handed over our id's to the desk and not given any information about the resort, food, activities other than we needed to be off the grounds by 9pm. We wandered around a bit and found the nude beach grabbing the last two free chairs that happened to be on the fat boarder of the property next to the food stand. We spent 5 hours there, tried several dozen times to strike up conversations on the beach, in the pool and on the grounds with no much luck. Once it was discovered that we were not part of the two or three groups on the property we were shunned. I can honesty say as soon as the topic of what group we were with came up and we informed they'll we were day passers and this was our first time the conversation immediately stopped and conveniently they either had something to do or honestly just turned around mid sentence and walked away. After the brief time, less than 5 hours we packed up and left very disappointed and kinda miffed. As first timers to a erotica type resort it was very sad to get a cold should because we weren't part of any group and certainly a turnoff to participate in the lifestyle since we are also totally new and never participated. And comments to shed light on the situation via forum or pm is greatly appreciated

We can share our story that, while not identical, gives some perspective. Last Christmas we stated at Hedo for 2 nights and had an absolute blast. 11 out of 10. We then were next door at Sandals for 5 nights and had a really nice time, completely different thing of course. The last day/night of the trip was NYE and we bought a day/night pass at Hedo and spent most of the day and night there. It's different. When you're there on a pass, we definitely felt different (with the wristband) and felt we were treated different. Of course, we may have been a little less social that 7 days earlier, before partying most of every day and night but still, it felt different. We had a nice day and fun NYE, went back to Sandals around 1:30-2am and went home the next day.

Moral to the story as most people will tell you...stay at Hedo. It's unlikely you'll regret it. Far from everyone is in the lifestyle. We are not but very occasionally dip our toes if the right timing and situation comes up. But we loved our time at the resort and just booked flights to head back over Halloween.

**Naughty Nudists** · 05-10-2015, 08:35 PM

Yep,I felt like a real freak wearing that stupid wrist band when we got bored out of our minds at Sandals after staying a week at Hedo and passed over two nights.The second year we did it they did not require a wrist band and I did not feel like an outcast at all.
I dont like wrist bands and am no longer required to take her to Sandals again.Hooray!

**Ian&Brooke** · 05-10-2015, 08:47 PM

Must have been a fluke. We have befriended many day-passers...who are a lot of fun because they are glad to have found some excitement! One couple we met, came over 4 days in a row. By far, Hedo is the most social and welcoming resort we have been to.

**Brian&Terri** · 05-10-2015, 08:58 PM

We've never been in January but it is a big lifestyle month. Maybe knowing you wouldn't be around all day the people you talked to didn't see anything happening later. We've found lifestyles to be very nice and liked talking with them. Sometimes they knew we weren't interested but they always talked to us all day. You may have just had bad luck and ran into the ones looking for hookups rather than being social? You should go again for sure....April is a great month... Just saying.

**foxxyandhound** · 05-11-2015, 05:22 AM

Originally Posted by happy2us

We can share our story that, while not identical, gives some perspective. Last Christmas we stated at Hedo for 2 nights and had an absolute blast. 11 out of 10. We then were next door at Sandals for 5 nights and had a really nice time, completely different thing of course. The last day/night of the trip was NYE and we bought a day/night pass at Hedo and spent most of the day and night there. It's different. When you're there on a pass, we definitely felt different (with the wristband) and felt we were treated different. Of course, we may have been a little less social that 7 days earlier, before partying most of every day and night but still, it felt different. We had a nice day and fun NYE, went back to Sandals around 1:30-2am and went home the next day.

Moral to the story as most people will tell you...stay at Hedo. It's unlikely you'll regret it. Far from everyone is in the lifestyle. We are not but very occasionally dip our toes if the right timing and situation comes up. But we loved our time at the resort and just booked flights to head back over Halloween.

we are there over Halloween also.... first time for us at Halloween time.... should be fun.... see you there

**Newfie Screech** · 05-11-2015, 05:25 AM

We are headed back in September for our third trip in 12 months. We have never gone with a group, but have never been made to feel unwelcome. We've had many brief conversations with folks whom we never spoke to afterward, perhaps just a smile as you pass by during the week, but that is normal. You can't get to know everybody. Usually, it takes at least a second day chatting with folks you met the day previous before you start to become part of a group of new friends that you will likely hang out with most of the week.

As one poster mentioned, there may be some in the lifestyle who become disinterested when they know a guest won't be there later, but it could also be that they are not lifestylers and if they get the impression you are, and that you seem to be interested in hooking up, then they might also try to find a way out of the conversation.

The best advice is to try a week there. I can see it being difficult to really experience Hedo in a day.

**2naughty** · 05-11-2015, 05:48 AM

It's a shame you had a poor experience. We have had some great conversations with day passers before so hopefully you experience was a one off. Most guests are friendly and inviting to all.

**HedoJoe** · 05-11-2015, 06:03 AM

Whenever we see daypassers sitting alone in the pool, we go over and say hello, find out where they are staying, what they think so far and then introduce them to our friends that walk by.

**Naughty Nudists** · 05-11-2015, 06:04 AM

Originally Posted by Ian&Brooke

Must have been a fluke. We have befriended many day-passers...who are a lot of fun because they are glad to have found some excitement! One couple we met, came over 4 days in a row. By far, Hedo is the most social and welcoming resort we have been to.

Day passing for FOUR days in a Row= Bored Out of their Mind at Sandals next door!AKA "Library Beach!"

**singlecruiser70** · 05-11-2015, 06:20 AM

Originally Posted by Brian&Terri

We've never been in January but it is a big lifestyle month. Maybe knowing you wouldn't be around all day the people you talked to didn't see anything happening later. We've found lifestyles to be very nice and liked talking with them. Sometimes they knew we weren't interested but they always talked to us all day. You may have just had bad luck and ran into the ones looking for hookups rather than being social? You should go again for sure....April is a great month... Just saying.

I agree with Brian n Terri.... Give it another try. I am sort of a loner type of guy but found it enjoyable being around people that always want to make conversation and play. Try a group like K&A in April...... Dick Singlecruiser

**Naughty Nudists** · 05-11-2015, 10:27 AM

If you go in April with us just know I might join you at breakfast and talk your ear off while I am waiting for HER to wake up and wander on over to the dining room.Breakfast at Hedo is actually my favorite meal btw as they have awesome omellettes.
NN

**Bitofsunshine** · 05-11-2015, 04:21 PM

Our first trip in 2010 was actually because a certain group was going to be there, so we knew they would have a higher capacity. (We had been going to a family resort in Montego Bay, until their capacity dropped.) We were not a part of any group our first trip. After much excitement, we found the group to be very cliquish. Even the host of that group was disappointed with the people in his group. BUT, we were “adopted” into another group there that was wonderful. They talked to us and gave us a lot of information about the resort, the different groups, etc. We have traveled as part of that group for 5 trips now and are booked for next year. You are going to run across cliquish groups and great groups. Try going at a different time of year. Also, you can do research to see what groups are going to be there. There are always going to be cliquish groups/people, but there are a lot of great groups/people out there. We did run across some day-passers on our last trip and we made sure they were having a good time and included them. They had so much fun with us – they stayed on a night pass also. Try again – don’t let one bad visit keep you away. Hedo is a fantastic resort. It is all about the people. We have many friends all over the world, that we met at Hedo.

(the group we are talking about is no longer in existence - thanks to that week in 2010 the Host was not happy with)