New to adult travel.

[cs70065]

Hello everyone. The wife and I are finally able to take a "adult" vacation. We have always wanted to go on one of the lifestyle cruises, but couldnt because of wifes job and limited days off and when she can take those off. So happens, we saw a ad on sls where there is a group goin to Hedo on Oct 3rd 2015 and checked the calender, and low and behold, she can take off that week. Since we have never taken one of these types of trips, I began my research. After countless threads on here and some other places fpr hours and hours on end, I am wondering if Hedo might be a bit much for our first trip. We are trying to narrow it down and are trying to pick out of either one of the Desire resorts or Hedo . What we are looking for is a place nude or topless that we can hang out and relax during the day by the pool or the beach with drinks. If we chat it up with another couple so be it, but more relaxing during the day then anything else. Then in the evening we could listen to music, and some type of fun and possibly run into a couple if it works out. Even though we do dabble in the lifestyle occasionally ( living in New Orleans, its hard not to be, lol ), but we arent hard core either. My wife isnt to comfortable with PDA. Making out, no problem, but more then that during the day, maybe not. We have read some horror stories about single men at Hedo "taking care of themselves" while staring at women. I know my wife, if that happens, we are done as far as these types of trips. Its ok in the bedroom, but watching a 70 year old guy, not really. I am budgeting about $3k for the trip and it looks like all 3 places would fit that. I understand the hotel at Hedo isnt as "classy" at Desire, and that doesnt bother us. We arent expecting 5 star, and are ok with it. But I am worried about hot water and A/c problems and those kind of bare neccesities. And also food. I am also worried about the age differences. I am seeing reviews from people our age (she is 34 and I am 39) at Desire Pearl even though the overviews I have read is that Desire Pearl is for a older group then us. One website said 50 and over. The other Desire is more to our age group, but its more partying and isnt as nice from what i have gathered reading. And Hedo can be a mix of all that depending on what group is there. But that its non-stop partying all day and I wonder how much relaxing we will have during the day. I personally do think that Hedo is more to my liking. And I think Desire Pearl will be to her liking. I am wondering if we should just go to Pearl to try out our first nude vacation, then next year move on to Hedo. But if we go to Pearl and its all people 20 years older then us, I dont think we would have a good time either. Not that i have anything against people that age, lol .. Just think it would be cooler to meet and hang out with people closer to our age. I noticed that hedo had a young group heading there on the Oct 3rd date we are trying. Which would be good for our age group. But i see there are SEVERAL groups that same week and I worry about over crowding or over booked which I have read in a number of threads so far. This site so far has been great and so glad I found it. Thanks to all help and hope I didnt ramble on to long.

[Lexi123]

Having been to them all, I'll tell you our experience and opinions of the 3. First off if PDA's are a deal breaker, none of the above may be for you. Desire RM is our fav of the 2 Desire resorts. Pearl is nicer, but a much older crowd and there was no night life. Pearl was dead after 9-10pm. RM had a much better night life and disco and the food was better. Hedo is our vote of the 3. Everyone is so nice and the food was the better of the 3 resorts. There were some single guys at Hedo but we never had issues nor did we ever see the guy getting his jollies off in the bushes. I'm sure that happens from time to time, but I don't think that is the norm. We saw more displays of sex at RM than at the other two. Hedo was the right mix for us. The beach is separated at Hedo with one side nude only and the other clothing optional. So you have the option based on your comfort level. Our travel agent said that Hedo will be about 70% booked during October. It was sold out last month when we went, but it never felt crowded. Hope this helps. Feel free to PM me if you want more info

[Funsunlovers]

Agree with Lexi, based on your original post your wife may not be ready for any of them yet. But if you have to pick one I'd say go to Pearl, quiet during the day, a nice dinner and off to bed. We found Pearl seriously boring, RM slightly better but a very aloof crowd. We won't go back to either Desire, only Hedo for us now.

[KenandEl]

We are going try out Pearl in July.

[cs70065]

Pearl does sound nicer, but the fact that there is nothing to do past 10pm will be our deal breaker on that. We are finally able to hang out and party at night with no kids, we want to be up till 2-3 am.. And my wife has no issue with the PDA when we go to the lifestyle clubs here in New Orleans, and enjoys it and participates. I'm just wondering if its goin on in public at a pool in front of us how she would feel. Who knows, i may be worrying for nothing. She may get there like some other people I have read and once they comfortable after a day, they open up. Honestly, my only major concern is the single guys. We avoid the clubs in New Orleans on the Friday night when they allow single guys after some bad experiences. I have read where some ladies couldnt walk alone, especially at night and some guys couldnt take a hint . I just worry that this would ruin the experience for us. Also , at Hedo, on the nude beach and nude pool, could she wear a small thong type bikini bottom? She has no problem being topless, we paid for the enhancements so we get our moneys worth, lol.. But at least for the 1st day or 2, I'm sure she would want to be on the topless only side. Is that what the prude side is for? Ive asked others this question and gotten mixed answers.

[Cdn_cpl]

I think you're right, for most people once they get to Hedo they adapt very quickly. Yes you will definitely see PDA'S around the pool area, some weeks more than others depending on the crowd. It's not blatantly in your face, if you don't want to look just turn away. The vast majority of single males are very respectful and fun to be around. If one of them happens to step out if line you will have other guests watching your back, that's the kind of place Hedo is. In five trips (#6 tomorrow!) we've never seen any inappropriate behaviour from a single male.

No bottoms are allowed at the nude pool or nude beach it's totally nude or nothing. If she wants to wear bottoms you will have to hang out on the prude side. Desire resorts on the other hand are c/o, you can be naked or not, your choice.

[freedomatlast]

Hedo all the way! You can't beat the Jamician culture, people and most important the vibe!!

Cheers !!

[Lexi123]

Ms. Lex answered first. So I'll put in my 2c. Hedo is my new home. Tried the rest going back to the best. Bottoms on the nude side was not allowed for extended time. 10 min to get settled in and they needed to be gone. Clothing optional is just that. Your choice. We had friends who spent a good bit of time on the c/o beach, they loved it.
We did not have any, not one, problem with a single or for that matter married aggressive male/female.
Guys masterbating, don't remember any. Creepy people, I see more at walmart than at hedo. Now take all this in context of my one trip to hedo. I understand different crowds bring different things. I still find it hard to believe though that the overall vibe of respect could change much.

[Naughty Nudists]

Different strokes for different folks!I know a lady who does not mind the pda at Hedo but would not consider going to a lifestyle club in New Orleans or anywhere else.Sounds like the greater concern here is total nudity and creepy single guys.It takes less than 30 minutes to get used to being naked where everyone else is and as for the single guys,there are some pretty awesome single guys who are gentlemen at Hedo.The few creeps give the rest a bad name.You will soon learn that perfect strangers really will "have your back" so to speak.I would not recommend a lady walking around in the dark unescorted anywhere though but would be less concerned about it at Hedo than in our adjoining small city at home.

[PNK]

Let me add to this thread. After too many years to mention at most of the resorts listed above, I have some insights:

Age is NOT an issue, unless YOU make it an issue. Nobody cares how old/young you are;

Wherever you go in the Caribbean (or anywhere else) you might run into deficient A/C etc. That's life. The water in Jamaica is EXCELLENT. Mexican water and sanitation can be a problem (is not usually);

Safety is a real issue in the US but not an issue at Hedo or the Mexican resorts. Common sense (or lack there of) is always an issue, especially when guests are trying drugs, or drinking too much;

If either of you is uncomfortable with nudity (partial or total) and social interactions, then stay away from the adult resorts you mentioned -- nudity is the norm most of the day, and into the evenings;

If sexual activity (by you or others) is even mildly offensive to you, then stay away.

For a milder, close to home experience you might want to spend a couple of days, in Florida, at either Caliente or Paradise Lakes. At the very least I'd seriously suggest you NOT visit Hedo when there is an active Lifestyle group in residence. It sounds like that might be over the top for your first adult vacation. Find a milder, more social week -- less lifestyle more relaxed nudity. Remember, none of the resorts you mentioned are 'nude' resorts -- they are 'Lifestyle Welcoming', so might exceed your comfort level right now.

Persoanlly, I'm happy with any week I can get to Hedo, or any of the Mexican or Florida resorts.

PNK

[cs70065]

Thanks, everyone. I think we will do Hedo. We have no issue with lifestyle. Again, we participate in it behind close doors, at friends houses and our own. I guess I was trying to guage the "wildness" at each club. You helped and I think we will have no issue. I work out at the gym alot but being 6'0 , 230 , I'm told I tend to intimidate with my size, even though truly, I'm a guy that can have drinks with total strangers and jump in any conversation. So I dont think some guys would be aggravating my wife with me around. But again, we are looking for good times, and music and drinks way past our normal bedtime, and I think the best sounds like Hedo. Thanks everyone