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    Quote Originally Posted by Dave_Houston_TX View Post
    Maybe there could be a code word like "Creeper". If there is someone being overly aggressive you just yell out "Creeper!" and everyone comes running!
    They are called Wally's or Vinnies

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dave_Houston_TX View Post
    Maybe there could be a code word like "Creeper". If there is someone being overly aggressive you just yell out "Creeper!" and everyone comes running!
    There are all kinds of personalities that converge on Hedo. If you're having a problem talk to someone about helping you resolve it. Yelling out or labeling someone as "Creeper" is immature and not at all the way to handle it. I think you'll find the occurrences of aggression are rare and limited. The single males, married couples and single females will likely protect you rather than scare you and your time at the resort will be spent enjoying each moment to the utmost fullest.
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    I went to Hedo 3 times, twice with my girlfriend and once alone. I saw only one incident (it was in March two years ago), one guy from NY was kicked out by security and everyone applauded. My personal experience is that almost all singles act properly.

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    I think that it depends on how sensitive you are to them too. We have only been once, and we are a young/fit couple. We had a few single shadows most of our week. A few only approached when hubby was absent. Others only approached into our personal space when we were playing around. It was strange knowing that no one was with 15 feet of us and then I am on top of hubby and there is someone 18 inches from my face just staring. It never really bothered me too much, as I know my boundaries and sort of felt bad for a few of them.
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    We have had several issues over the years, personally and with the group.
    Handled them all, without too much of an issue.
    There was this one time that a single guy ran into this pirate, well that's another story.
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    As others have stated, the single guys that cause problems are almost always first-timers, or "Hedo Virgins", who don't quite get it. Hedo is a clothing-optional, lifestyle-friendly resort that caters to heterosexual couples (and to bi/bi-curious women). Reasonably attractive singles can also have a very good time at Hedo (Though I strongly recommend that singles diet and work out at the gym for several weeks/months before a Hedo vacation, because looking good naked really helps). Despite its reputation, Hedo is NOT a porn movie set or some ongoing orgy to which all are invited to participate.

    In my experience, most problems at Hedo center around too much drinking or overindulgence in ganga or other substances--which is a problem that all-inclusive resorts have generally. Drunk guys, especially drunk single guys, will sometimes act like jackasses around naked women. So, if you stay away from obviously or apparently drunk/high single guys, then you should have no problems.

    That being said, there always seem to be 2 or 3 "Creepers" or "Wallys" (wallflowers) whenever I vacation at Hedo. They are the socially-awkward guys who tend to stare a lot and flock to watch whenever PDAs occur. They probably don't have girlfriends or get laid much back home, due to unattractiveness, shyness, or lack of personality. "Vinnies" are aggressive, overconfident guys who will hit on just about any woman they find attractive, and who seem to believe that a Hedo vacation is some type of porn movie in which they are co-starring. Vinnies are rarer that Wallys, in my experience, but it may be that they figure Hedo out quicker or they calm down after having their first sexual encounter at Hedo.

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    27 Trips to Hedo II and never had what I would call a problem with single men. There are usually around 400 people at Hedo at any given time. Once in a while there is an a-hole around, we usually just avoid him when he or she is drunk. Honestly we've been bothered by drunk aggressive women much more than men. In my experience out of 400 peolple around at least 350 I'd love to have diner with, 48 I'm somewhat indifferent too and maybe 2 that bug me. Not bad odds. And by "bug me" I mean i'd rather talk to someone else.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Daveman34286 View Post
    Not the case I am a single male have been to Hedo 9 times I'm not pushy or aggressive at all. People would say I am very well behaved. I know my place at Hedo and have never been the part of any situation. Many of the employees know me and will vouch for me. Hedo is about feeling free and doing what you want to do when you want to no judgment. Trust me you will fall in love with the resort if you are even thinking of entering that atmosphere :-) . Go and enjoy you might want to worry more about the married guys :-)
    I fully agree with you Dave and can vouch for you as well. We have met different single males during our trips to Hedo with you being one of them. The only problem we ever had was the little Italian guy mentioned in this thread but he was handled.

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    I also fully agree with Daveman34286

    as a single male guest, italian and not tall at all, I apologize for my compatriot, who I never met. I have been to Jamaica 4 and to hedo 3 times, 4th visit will be in October. never had any problem because of being a single male. always try to be friendly to both ladies and gentlemen. some smile and say hi and talk to me, some don't even look at me or try to ignore me. I usually can see pretty soon if I am welcome or not. I travel alone, first of all because most of my friends are married and their partners (wifes and husbands)wouldn't allow them to join me visiting Jamaica and especially hedo. sometimes* I sit alone on a table for breakfast and dinner, I would never ask if I could sit on a table with a couple or a group unless they invite me. I think it is inappropriate as I can see most of the couples know each other and are having fun together. so I would never try to break into a table with friends. I still feel fine with that as I enjoy my vacation because I like the country and the jamaicans. and since I visited hedo for the first time to me there is no better vacation as it could be at hedonism2. love being naked and enjoy the Caribbean sun and water. I also went scuba diving a couple times, which was a nice experience. I stay at the beach most of the day and never tried the nude pool until the last visit on the last day. I was invited to go there with a couple I met during my stay. I really wondered how quick you get into chats and talks at the pool. liked it a lot. but my place will be at the beach for sure. I don't feel creepy at all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jamming View Post
    I also fully agree with Daveman34286

    as a single male guest, italian and not tall at all, I apologize for my compatriot, who I never met. I have been to Jamaica 4 and to hedo 3 times, 4th visit will be in October. never had any problem because of being a single male. always try to be friendly to both ladies and gentlemen. some smile and say hi and talk to me, some don't even look at me or try to ignore me. I usually can see pretty soon if I am welcome or not. I travel alone, first of all because most of my friends are married and their partners (wifes and husbands)wouldn't allow them to join me visiting Jamaica and especially hedo. sometimes* I sit alone on a table for breakfast and dinner, I would never ask if I could sit on a table with a couple or a group unless they invite me. I think it is inappropriate as I can see most of the couples know each other and are having fun together. so I would never try to break into a table with friends. I still feel fine with that as I enjoy my vacation because I like the country and the jamaicans. and since I visited hedo for the first time to me there is no better vacation as it could be at hedonism2. love being naked and enjoy the Caribbean sun and water. I also went scuba diving a couple times, which was a nice experience. I stay at the beach most of the day and never tried the nude pool until the last visit on the last day. I was invited to go there with a couple I met during my stay. I really wondered how quick you get into chats and talks at the pool. liked it a lot. but my place will be at the beach for sure. I don't feel creepy at all.
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    If every single acted like that, then there would never be any problems.
    Such is life.
    And we have met and enjoyed the company of singles over the years, so we are not anti-single's by any means.
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    Ok... Maybe I am wrong.
    Hedo is a very sexually charged resort, this being so, it is always in the back of your head..."what if...".
    Now, we like chatting with all sorts of people, couples and singles, however, sexually we as a couple are simply not interested in adding just a single male to the mix. Hedo is really a place that allows "her" to explore and enjoy her bi side.
    Now as a couple with have lots of fun with other couples, so she is not strictly "girls only", but the excitement is the couple - couple exchange.
    So, even so we would like to chat with single guys, and we have, once we explain there is no interest beyond chatting, we actually get the cold shoulder.
    We are one of these couples who may avoid eye contact with single guys, not because they are single as such, or that we think they are creeps, but just because we want to avoid an any unpleasantries.
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    Quote Originally Posted by rast67 View Post
    Ok... Maybe I am wrong.
    Hedo is a very sexually charged resort, this being so, it is always in the back of your head..."what if...".
    Now, we like chatting with all sorts of people, couples and singles, however, sexually we as a couple are simply not interested in adding just a single male to the mix. Hedo is really a place that allows "her" to explore and enjoy her bi side.
    Now as a couple with have lots of fun with other couples, so she is not strictly "girls only", but the excitement is the couple - couple exchange.
    So, even so we would like to chat with single guys, and we have, once we explain there is no interest beyond chatting, we actually get the cold shoulder.
    We are one of these couples who may avoid eye contact with single guys, not because they are single as such, or that we think they are creeps, but just because we want to avoid an any unpleasantries.
    Not sure if others feel the same way.
    This could have been written by us. 100% agree
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    Quote Originally Posted by CopNkitten View Post
    We have had several issues over the years, personally and with the group.
    Handled them all, without too much of an issue.
    There was this one time that a single guy ran into this pirate, well that's another story.
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    I didn't realize he was single... I thought he was just an asshole. :-)
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