Ok, I'll try to explain this question....My girlfriend and I are going on our virgin hero trip in about a month. We are very excited but a bit nervous....these forums have done a fabulous job of putting to rest the vast majority of our concerns, but today we were having our discussion (as suggested by many here on the boards) about our expectations, and boundaries and signals so that we are on the same page going in, and come out the other side as close and happy as we went in. We are not in the lifestyle. We are simply adventurous people who aren't opposed to testing our boundaries if the right time/place/situation presented itself. But for now we are not interested in involving any other people in our physical life. We are aware that at Hedo these preconceived notions may change. And that is fine with us. As far as I am concerned, the purpose of this first (short) trip is mainly to get my tightly wound brain over the concept of being naked in public. Anyway, we were having the conversation today and we were discussing the balancing act of not being too uptight about people being making playful contact (a pinched butt for example) and not letting that "allowance" give the impression that anything goes.
I don't want to have to set up a 3-foot perimeter around us as a no-contact zone, because thats not us, and I wouldn't want to do that, and she wouldn't want me to do that. But on the other hand she was very clear to me that she expects me to "protect" her from any unwanted advances. Sure, for 90% of the people there seems to be this amazing atmosphere of respect at Hedo and the reports are totally positive, but there are still plenty of trip reports that report an incident here and there (some scarier than others) where a situation seems very disrespectful, and sometimes downright wrong. This is what we are looking for some advice for.
Thanks. - Trifecta
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