Hedo or desire?

[SamAndRose]

While I would agree that the beach at Hedo is marginally better than Desire (although about the worst on 7 Mile Beach), the specific reason you gave was invalid. Why? Because all beaches in JAMAICA are also public and anyone can walk past you down the beach, even kids, there too.

True, But at Hedo, they have guards at the gates and even though people not from Hedo walk on the CO side of Hedo, I have yet to see a child walk down the Nude Beach side. Others who have been there more than I (and I've only been there once) will be able to confirm or refute my statement.

[PNK]

Let me add a comment reflecting many, many years of visiting the Hedo and Desire sites. Like those ads for investments, you can't rely on a previous performance to guarantee future performance. Staff comes and goes. Management changes. Most important: last week's highly animated 'group' may be replaced by a totally different set of visitors (perhaps with a different lifestyle, or language).

That said, we have never had a bad visit to Hedo or Desire (any of them). But each visit has been a totally different experience -- even when we ran into previously encountered 'friends'.

As another writer said: it's you vacation so make it what YOU want. Do what YOU want, and you'll have fun. If you find the thought of children or clothed people seeing you on a beach, simply roll over and close your eyes. You won''t see them and you can pretend they can't see you. Easy

Have a great vacation. We do

Hedo, July 10 - 17, 2014

PNK

[nobodiesnowhere]

Honestly, yes, saying no will alienate some. There are usually a few that are just looking for the next conquest. They probably won't be rude about it, but they are going to move on.

Didn't realize it was such an open atmosphere, thinking more discrete, but doesn't dissuade as long as it's not a pressed issue.

Don't want to be uncomfortable is the primary concern, since the only aspect that we're not interested in actually participating.

Being immersed in activity isn't the issue. Quite the contrary, we think, but it'll be with each other, regardless whose watching.

If you're up front and open about what you're into and what you're not, most are still happy to spend time with you (our experience anyway).

We're not antisocial, but relatively reserved, for the most part.

Desire isn't 100% swingers, but its a pretty high percentage and, as the atmosphere gets more erotic at events, the percent goes up.

Good to know.

To reiterate, it's not our thing, but doesn't preclude from being interested in the environment, as it's not open activity that's of issue and possibly what we seek.

If there were a specific resort for couples, described identically to what we understand these to be without swapping, it'd probably be our choice, to avoid any discomfort that may be associated with continually reiterating that we're NOT swapping, since the aspect that we won't partake.

There are also quite a few like us who pretty much just play together most of the time. If you're open minded and not easily offended you're not on the wrong track.

Good to know. That accurately describes what we're thinking.

Just be sure you're both on the same page and keep the communication going.

No issues there. Both of the same mind in reality, regardless the discussed fantasy aspect.

If you have other specific Desire questions, feel free to send us a PM.

Thanks.

I don't know how candid a question can be, and still be considered proper etiquette, but certainly have many.

I don't think so. My wife and I took our first 5 trips to Hedo as 100% non-swingers, and we had a great time. We were asked a few times, and when we'd tell them no, they'd either head off into the sunset or they'd stick around anyhow because we were fun to hang out with. It is well known that there are both swingers and nudists at Hedo, and the two groups get along swimmingly, from all I have observed in 10 years of traveling there.

So married observers/outside participants aren't abnormal?

That said, there is absolutely the sexual atmosphere around you.

Good.

I tell people all the time, "It's your vacation" and I mean it.....
No one is going to judge you on what your vacation looks like, and they'll expect the same in return.

Good to know.

if you do decide on Hedo,

By name only....

"Secrets" was a stretch, considering those that must be informed of destination. "Desires" will raise more than a few brows...."Hedonism" may push the envelope of acceptability, one that's critical for these travel opportunities to present themselves......which is why we may be going to El Cid, as far as the rest of the world is concerned....haha.

In the spirit of full disclosure, since obviously posting here for more than reviews of the food, room, service quality.

Anonymity is an obvious component of this being an open conversation, but, based on reads, it sounds as though the participants on this forum offer opinions/advice based on experiences, some we don't desire to have, but others we think we do.

Anyhow....

We've never been to a CO resort, CO beach, even a topless beach, the first experience even close to being a private roof top pool a few months ago that was solely us.

We've never participated in any form of voyeurism and, for that matter, don't even watch porn as a form of foreplay, not as an adherence to edict, but typically too involved for it to be necessitated.

Couples is probably a better fit, all things considered and from a "participation" standpoint, but does lack a fantasy element that sounds only present at resorts that are also known for more than what we seek.

The CO and PDA aspects, along with a nightlife that may have a pulse beyond a nursing home, with an strong, erotic atmosphere, is what we're thinking.

That said, is the consensus still that we're on the right track considering Desires or is there a gateway alternative that should be considered first?

[nobodiesnowhere]

Like those ads for investments, you can't rely on a previous performance to guarantee future performance.

You mean to tell me silver is not the new gold?? Ha.

Probably straying entirely too far off course, especially since new, but, as stated above, we have absolutely no basis for expectations, since we've never embarked on anything remotely similar.

One beauty of the internet is mining data, but the other is direct dialogue to engage those that have been.

Not a topic of conversation typical with anyone we know, by any stretch, so limited to what we can surmise on the internet, and do appreciate the input, but understand the warning.

As another writer said: it's you vacation so make it what YOU want. Do what YOU want, and you'll have fun.

Sentiment resounds, which is reassuring.

If you find the thought of children or clothed people seeing you on a beach, simply roll over and close your eyes.

Clothed people, no.

Kids, on the other.....

Is there a location out of those discussed with any less potential, more privacy?

[Hedomary]

With much respect...do not over think or analyze Hedo or Desire...they are both fun vacations. I much prefer Hedo although sexually charged it is more about the fun and goofy summer camp for adult atmosphere that makes it appealing than the idea of open sex on the beach. it can happen but one could also go an entire week without seeing any overt sex in public.
sexy clothes,sexy dancing, wet tshirt, body shots are not as likely to happen at a Couples or Sandals type resort.
I love it because I am a Mom, teacher, PTA, etc 51 weeks out of the year but for one special week I get to just be The sexiest wife possible for my husband.

[nobodiesnowhere]

With much respect...do not over think or analyze Hedo or Desire...

Haha.

Even anonymity afforded by the internet can't conceal the trait/flaw to over-analyze.

Appreciate the candor.

[mac_r_a]

Hedo is at the very end of the 7 mile beach and has guards at the entrance to it. Children would not be on the beach at Hedo, no worries.

[nobodiesnowhere]

Children would not be on the beach at Hedo, no worries.

Good to know.

[nobodiesnowhere]

Probably not the right thread for, but dialogue has been established so figured it'd minimize debris elsewhere.

Will delete if asked or take cues if deleted....just seemed logical spot.

My wife, whose following along, and I were discussing another potential stumbling block, having dealt with all others and relatively sure we're on board for a week late June at either.

Since reasoning for decision is based on input received here, figured I'd throw this out there, too.

Cosmetic surgeries have scarred, a non-issue for either of us in private, but exposure would heighten her self consciousness and may prohibit from enjoying the overall experience....if something that'd be given any attention.

That, coupled with not having twenty year old bodies, another concern.

None of it has any basis in reality, since she's gorgeous but wouldn't want her to feel any more uncomfortable than the initial shock of public nudity that, I'm sure we'll get over quickly.

Since all input seems to be straightforward and if I'm not too far out of line asking about here, would appreciate any input that may ease concerns, or honesty that might suggest postponing a trip for another year in the future, if any legitimacy to.

We're both getting excited about this developing, but can change course if someone advises that postponement may allow a better experience.

My apologies for verbosity.... Can't help it.

[mac_r_a]

Many women who go to Hedo have scars from surgeries. To tell you the God's honest truth - go to the nude side of Hedo and party for a week and you wife will walk away feeling the sexiest she has in her LIFE!!! There is just something about the place!

[ColonelPanic]

The only possible reaction I've ever seen to anything of that type is "Cool scar? How'd you get it?" but realistically no, it will be ignored. We all have them. We've seen some pretty badly beaten up bodies over the years, which happened to contain some of the most wonderful people we've ever encountered.

[takemetonegril]

Everyone is equal and everyone is accepted at Hedo regardless of body type, weight, height, scars, missing parts, or any other physical maladies. The place is very accepting and very easy for the uninitiated, someone in the nude pool will explain everything to you that you don't understand and no one will make you feel uncomfortable. The entire world is your oyster (or clam) at Hedo, do what you want, when you want, as wild or not. Even at the end of the week if you find Hedo isn't for you, you won't regret going, I'm sure.

Cheers

[NWWACouple]

100% agree with the above. Don't stress the body issues. It won't take long before you forget all about them. If you're worried though, you may want to consider Hedo over Desire.

Again we haven't been to Hedo yet - just Desire, and most people at Desire were very welcoming to everyone. Honestly though, there is a significant number of Desire guests that are more on the superficial side. Hedo probably gets some too, but from what we've gathered (and based on experience other places), the no-clothes-allowed nude side of Hedo is going to be a lot less that way. Somehow, when everyone is naked, people are just more open/real. People that doesn't work for gravitate to the other side.

At Desire, the whole place is clothing optional, there is no fully nude section. That makes for a little different atmosphere.

Our first experience was at an au-natural (no clothes allowed) beach. If it had been clothing optional, I am not sure we'd still be enjoying vacations like these.

BTW - if you do decide to go to Hedo, we just booked through the people at Wild Women Vacations/First Travel. Don't let the name worry you too much. They were very helpful and professional at they specialize in Hedo trips. We'd highly recommend them.

[hedo2desire]

As far as the whole cosmetic surgery/scar thing goes. Having been to both Hedo & Desire, we'd say it's equal in both places and a complete non-issue. No worries.

We have noticed that there seems to be more women with surgical enhancements at Hedo & Desire than we ever remember seeing at the the vanilla nude resorts like Braco & Couples.

The bottom line is you have nothing to concern yourselves with. You'll be fine at either!

Isn't it great to have to make a choice that can't go wrong!?!

[SamAndRose]

People won't notice or care about scars or any physical differences that we all have. Poor attitudes get noticed. Go there with an open mind and you will have a great vacation and make some memories that will stay with you for a lifetime.