how will we know another couple wants to "swing"?

**LOUSTON57** · 11-30-2013, 01:55 AM

This will be our first time to desire RM and we are not sure how far we will take our experiences until we get there, but our question is, how do you know another couple wants to swing? If we did, we would all have to be in the same bed.

**HedoJoe** · 11-30-2013, 05:59 AM

"Hi! Are you two in the lifestyle?" Great opening line and icebreaker.

**CopNkitten** · 11-30-2013, 10:50 AM

They will ask you, or you will ask them.
No secret code, its really that simple.
What we like to do is if were not sure, we tell the other couple were interested in some fun and if they want to play, let us know, and leave it at that.
That way, no pressure and the balls in their court. We don't make someone answer on the spot.
I know others are a little more aggressive, and some are even less. That's just our style.
CopNkitten..

**klasdude** · 12-02-2013, 09:01 AM

As the 2 above mentioned, just ask or somebody will ask you. One thing I will say, if you meet somebody interesting and they are not in the lifestyle (or you do not want to swing) don't rule them out as possible life long friends, just because you don't match on the lifestyle. We are not in the lifestyle but met a great couple that are. We spent 6 nights with them and I feel like we've known them for years. Also, another suggestion, you said you don't know how you far you are willing to go. We put together a list of boundries before we left. We found those boundries can flex. My advise would be to get up every morning and talk about what happened the night before. Remember, when you are at places like this, things may happen that you may not feel comfortable with. Just remember, it goes along with the territory but you HAVE to communicate, especially being new.