I am looking into going on vacation at Hedo III, and I am a single guy. However, I have no expectations whatsoever. I am a very mellow soul. I would like to go just to meet new people, maybe make Hedo a regular vacation spot. Here are my questions:
(1) Are single men pariahs at Hedo? From reading everyone's posts, it seems like single guys aren't even talked to. I'm not looking to go crazy, but I don't want to be completely ignored down there as well.
(2) What time of the year is the best for a single guy to go? I am looking at December during Christmas week? Is that a good time?
(3) Are there forums where I could go to meet people before I go? Maybe make some friends in advance so I won't feel completely alone?
We haven't gone yet, but we've done a lot of research. We're the type of couple that will be talking to the singles as much as the other couples. Surely we won't be the only ones with that mentality there. We'll be there in May, you should go then!
Jen
<edit, denny doesn't allow people to link to competing travel agents, groups, or forums on his site, so I'm not a fan of people promoting his site here. This forum will never grow if all people do is post links to his.>
My wife and I have gone to HII once, but plan to go again. We went not
looking to hook up either with a single or a couple, just for ourselves. There
was a single guy there at the time that we were there that you might want
to take a lesson from. He was friendly, played all the games, was in the
talent night, sang in the piano bar, and seemed to be by himself all the time.
Our problem with him, even just to be social with him is that he was coming
on too strong and trying too hard. It was obvious that he was trying to
hook up and it worked against him - over and over.
When he was talking to my wife and I, he was talking to her, not us. We
didn't talk to him very long.
When we were in the hot tub one afternoon, there was another couple that
had left a space between themselves on the seat as they talked to other
people around them and before they knew it he was between them on the
seat. In a matter of a couple of minutes they were gone and he was alone.
We didn't really keep tabs on him, but after that first time he did stand out
to us when we were around him and that was the way it was every time we
saw him. He'd 'make a move' and then would be alone again in just a few
minutes.
When he wasn't trying to make the move on someone's wife, he seemed
intelligent and likable. If it wasn't so sad it would have been funny...and
we laughed at him a couple of times anyway. It was like a cartoon at times.
We had to wonder just how many times he was going to hit his thumb with
the hammer before he realized that if he stopped it would stop hurting. He
never figured that part out.
I'm sure he went home thinking that Hedo was full of rude people, but it
was really all about the way he was not everyone around him.
One night at Munasan, we had a wonderful conversation with a single guy. he was interesting, cordial, and not pushy -- so not all single guys are pariahs.
We also encountered some goons in the hot tub who cruised around staring at couples having PDAs and made pests of themselves.
Please, just go to have a good time without expecting to score. Please don't stare at my wife when we're having fun in the hot tub.
If you go to have a great time, it'll work out. If you think you're going to score with the ladies, you might as well not go to Hedo.
Just my opinion.
We were first timers last May and there were several single guys and a few single gals there at the same time. The people who were there just to have fun, getting to know people, etc, all seemd to get lucky- a LOT. Be cool at Hedo. Talk to strangers, enjoy life. I only ran into one wierd guy. I was talking to his wife, a great gal, by the way, and later inroduced myself. He vaguely implied I was tring to get into his wifes knickers. Sadly, I wasn't- she was just a really cool girl. So I wrote them off. Too bad, BUT there are so many really cool people there- we made some great friends there and are going back again this May! Good Luck!
Hey this is only our opinion, but we just got back on Monday and I wouldn't recommend Hedo for most single men. Especially if you think you will be getting layed 24/7. I met a number of single guys who were nice and out going, but most admitted it wasn't the trip they thought it would be. If you just want to go to meet great people and socialize, see a few "sights" and soke up the sun, then you might be ok. Just don't expect a bunch of single women or couples inviting you back to their room...it happens, but it's not as prevelent as you might think.
If you TRULY have no expectations at Hedo you'll have a great time. I'm a single guy and I went to Hedo III for the first time last November. Here are my observations.
1) People aren't rude to single guys. People at Hedo aren't rude at all, unless you're rude first. If you're too clueless to know when you're being rude don't go. Hedo is very much a place were the energy (positive or negative) that you put out, gets reflected back at you.
2) The only time someone didn't speak to me, it was because their English was very poor.
3) Talk and be friendly to everyone, any age, race, sex, nationality, EVERYONE. The Hedo resorts are small. Word gets around lightning fast about who is cool and who is not. People aren't looking at the size of your package. People are looking at how you treat other people, especially the women.
If you're really just interested in meeting new people you can easily meet people who will be dear friends for life. That is no joke. Hedo attracts very special folks.
4) Don't expect to see a ton of young, hot, single women. Singles are a minority and there are more single men than women. I would guess the median age was 42 or so. That's probably due to the cost.
I met a lot of young good looking guys who were definitely expect a nonstop orgy. They all went home very disappointed, even the ones who got laid once or twice.
5) Read zed's post at least five times. Commit it to memory. The hungry do not get fed at Hedo.
If you're the single guy who makes a b-line for ever cute woman, single or partnered up, then you'll be a pariah. If your the single guy who is every bit as cool with hanging with the 85 year old dude with the walker, as you are the 23 year old professional porn hottie, then you won't be a pariah.
6) Get into the best shape you can. If that's not very good don't make a big deal out of it. Be happy with what you've got. Don't display your insecurities.
7) I doubt it matters what time of year you go. Being a fun person to be around is timeless.
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