Clues that someone wants to play?

**mac_r_a** · 08-02-2013, 08:10 PM

Originally Posted by flfitguy

Another note for single guys...I never go to the hot tub at night unless I am invited by a couple or single female. Since I have been in all three capacities (married, w/ girlfriend and single) I did not feel it was appropriate for me to hit the hot tub scene unless invited.

That probably earns you a lot of brownie points. The single guys sitting in the hot tub at night (whether they are creepy or normal) is just not cool. Everyone else is in groups or couples and then there are those guys sitting by themselves with no one close to them (unless it is really packed, lol) That late at night is not the time to get invited into something, the only reason they are there is to watch for their spank bank, which ruins the mood for many others.

**Jamaica Joe** · 08-04-2013, 12:58 PM

Clues? Hedo is not really about subtleties. Hedo is a lifestyle-friendly, clothing-optional resort. Every guest is there for only a few days, or maybe a week or so, with full knowledge of its reputation. There is simply not a lot of time to spend parsing over "clues."

At the nudeside bar/pool/hot tub areas, guests are completely naked and drinking and socializing. So, if you seem to be hitting it off with a person or couple that you are chatting with, just directly ask "are you in the Lifestyle?". If you get a "no" or another polite rejection, then you now know that your friendly conversation will not result in playing later. If you get a positive response or expression of interest, then your next question should be "would you be interested in playing?" or "would you like to go back to one of our rooms later?" or something like that. If you get a mixed response, then she/he/they will at least know that you are interested in playing and may revisit the subject with you later. Hedo guests--especially repeat guests--will not be offended by those questions and may even be hoping that you ask first.

**sexylady** · 09-28-2013, 02:21 AM

One month to go. Right time to put our views. Yes, we like that just ask. If you get a no - then you are where you were before you asked. If you get a yes, you got what you wanted. Just don't oogle? There are all kinds - chauvinistic, narccistic, exhibitionist, cuckoldic - if you get inviting looks, jump right head, if you get 'F.O." looks just do that! Come to think of it, we have always been asked politely, and never said no.

**sxycpl85** · 09-30-2013, 02:18 PM

Even though I'm beating a dead horse here, id like to state my opinion. Honesty and strait forward questions/answers is key. If nice about it no one should be offended. Clues might help you get to the point of asking the questions, but they need to be asked.

We just got back from hedo about 2 weeks ago. Before this we were hedo/lifestyle/nudist virgins, yes we just took the all out plunge, lol. We had discussed stuff before but that's it. We were open and honest about our experience with others as well as ourselves and we had the time of our lives!

**millionsnmilo** · 09-30-2013, 03:55 PM

How about when they knock on your door at 1.30 am and ask if you want to come out and play.

**CopNkitten** · 10-02-2013, 01:33 AM

Someone makes it back to their room by 1:30am?
Cop..

**mac_r_a** · 10-02-2013, 06:52 AM

Originally Posted by CopNkitten

Someone makes it back to their room by 1:30am?
Cop..

They are the rare couple that does. If we make it back to our room by 5am it is an early night!! And last year I only missed breakfast one day. That sucked, I hate missing breakfast. I could never function at home with that little sleep, but that is yet another magical thing about Hedo - you can function on very little sleep.

**HedoJoe** · 10-02-2013, 07:16 AM

We met a couple one year that never set foot into their room for the first 72 hours. They spent the first 3 nights in other people rooms.

**millionsnmilo** · 10-02-2013, 08:26 AM

Originally Posted by mac_r_a

They are the rare couple that does. If we make it back to our room by 5am it is an early night!! And last year I only missed breakfast one day. That sucked, I hate missing breakfast. I could never function at home with that little sleep, but that is yet another magical thing about Hedo - you can function on very little sleep.

That would be us .... formally known as cinda --fn -- rella.
It is nice seeing the early morning and feeling good. Last year we sort of tore it up and the days were actually a struggle.
This year we are thinking of relaxing more and enjoying the mornings. Morning sex rocks!

**mac_r_a** · 10-02-2013, 09:13 AM

Originally Posted by millionsnmilo

That would be us .... formally known as cinda --fn -- rella.
It is nice seeing the early morning and feeling good. Last year we sort of tore it up and the days were actually a struggle.
This year we are thinking of relaxing more and enjoying the mornings. Morning sex rocks!

I passed out hard on our first night there last year and was up at 6am. There is nothing to do that time of the time. I find at Hedo I have to constantly be doing something or else I do get tired and burned out. Guess that is why I love the place so much. If one place is boring you can usually walk to another place and find fun, or make your own. We usually always have morning sex, it is just usually around 5/6am before bed, and then around 9/10 am when we wake up, lol. And then a few times in between those hours of course

**frasan3871** · 10-28-2013, 01:41 PM

hey all me and wife are going for the first time this nov. I would say that we are not in the lifestyle But if things go in that direction I am sure we would give it a try. we have had 4 sums before but mostly with close friends . how would we fit in at hedonism? please tell me what you think.

**smallandtall** · 10-28-2013, 01:53 PM

Originally Posted by frasan3871

how would we fit in at hedonism? please tell me what you think.

You'll fit in just fine.

It's not as if everyone at Hedo is a swinger.
Also, there are plenty of people who enjoy having sex with others outside their primary relationship that do no consider themselves swingers.
It's just a term, a label, nothing more. :-)

**frasan3871** · 10-28-2013, 04:20 PM

thanks but every thing I read has that term lifestyle in it. I am so excited cant wait I am addicted to this site and all the post. and have never even been there but cant wait 33 more days for us

**singlecruiser70** · 10-29-2013, 07:54 AM

Then there is the term "Hedo swingers only". I have met several couples that fit that description...... Dick Singlecruiser

**lorinchris** · 02-11-2014, 09:41 AM

In the interest of clearing up any confusion about us. If you see us at Hedo we ARE there to play..... So now that we cleared that up, feel free to come and say hi!!