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    Newbies

    Hi everyone, we're new at this and looking to learn. My gal is slow to get comfortable with the lifestyle - the spectator aspect isn't what she's into at this point. Any suggestions on how you got into it and kept your relationship on an even keel?

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    As the saying goes you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. In this case, all you can do is provide a safe and conducive environment- but be prepared for the possibility that it won't make a difference. It's not something you can jump into if only one person in the relationship is into it. That just breeds mistrust and resentment. There are plenty of people who have gone to places like hedo with the idea that it was just about being there and seeing other people who ended up taking the safeties off in one measure or another and ended up trying some things. There are also plenty who pushed their limits and ended up with drama on their vacation- which just sucks.
    It really comes down to this: talk, talk, and talk. Even after all these years when Kitty and I get into a situation where things are progressing we always take a moment to ensure we are both on the same page- nothing wrong with that.
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    Hi I'm new but I'm so excited because I could be able to ask you this , what can you say GFE escort Hamilton?

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    Hello everybody, I am new here but very interested in the lifestyle. I have not asked the wife yet if she is but going to soon!

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    We are also newbies and visiting Hedo for the first time in November. Reading these forums, you will see that there are no expectations for anyone to do anything that they don't want to, but that they can do whatever they do want to. This is what makes Hedo unique - anything is there if you want it, but if you don't - fine, just enjoy the experience. Swinger clubs are not generally like that, there is usually an expectation that you will join in. Tracey and I read the forums together, and if you think about it, it's the nearest thing to hippydom still left on the planet, we are going with no pressure or expectations - and cant wait. I will have painted nails - don't know why, but I have always fancied it - Hedo makes this possible without you becoming a freak show. Let her read the forums - if she has a spark of fun in her, you wont keep her from trying it :-)

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